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ccc  ·  3145 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Email or Push? Please, Not Both!

Yeah man, I recently uninstalled a game and left a one-star review for pushing me a "reminder" to play because something or other was probably "missing" me, you know that sort of thing. Not sure if you're talking about this or actual third-party advertisement being pushed. I don't know if this is somehow okay for some people now, but I grew up desktop gaming and this is bizarre to me and generates in me vaguely old-person thoughts and fear about how the norms may be changing now against my favor. But at least I can change things on my own phone and I like it when applications speak when spoken to ... technology is becoming impertinent. :P

ccc  ·  3166 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Is Hubski's IRC offline?

Try another client like https://kiwiirc.com/client in case mibbit got blocked for some reason. Happens to webclients, abuse gateways you know. But the topic in the freenode channel says they moved to #hubski at irc.hubski.com

I haven't been paying attention so not sure what's up now.

ccc  ·  3226 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Internet of Things security is so bad, there’s a search engine for sleeping kids

Haha, great. There's a convention I go to yearly where a guy brings over a computer lab of Linux machines. For years I was able to telnet from one to the other and issue commands to launch the web browser to whatever site I wanted, trolly images, turn up the volume all the way and play sound files found on the hard drive, etc. I emailed him anonymously about it the first year and it was never fixed for years, until he bought new hardware entirely. I could have captured almost whatever I wanted, lol.

ccc  ·  3272 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: December 1st: What are you reading this week?

I'm rereading Tailchaser's Song. Nice journey while high.

I've also left Neptune's Brood unfinished a while ago. I'm not sure what else but I probably have something sitting around.

ccc  ·  3315 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: How to ruin your life in 140 characters

I guess it could go either way. For example, this

http://www.syracuse.com/news/index.ssf/2015/06/whos_the_speaker_at_his_graduation_the_man_who_sent_him_to_prison.html

Followed by this

http://www.syracuse.com/news/index.ssf/2015/06/car_dealer_fires_former_gang_member_after_syracusecom_story_about_his_success.html

One happening isn't a statistic but here's at least an example of how the well-intentioned coverage can cause trouble.

ccc  ·  3338 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: A Useful Bugski that I Do NOT Want Fixskied

It's still a great read so thanks.

ccc  ·  3338 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: A Useful Bugski that I Do NOT Want Fixskied

Yeah I decided to PM him instead. He'll get around to it if he feels like it and that's the only way I would want to get it anyway. :P I'll try the search though.

ccc  ·  3341 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What do I do with being lonely?

I've been thinking about it because it's not some kind of strategy I worked out, just me remembering (I'm not very good at that) what has happened seemingly naturally. I'm not sure what sort of situation you're imagining but I don't usually have the chance to talk to a total stranger and go from there to the juicy bits. Usually it's at work. Maybe there are a couple of people talking in the smoking area, and in that situation especially, it's easy to join the conversation and nudge toward things like the underlying reasons/motivations of something, and probe at the personality and so on. Even if it's just one coworker I hadn't really talked to much before, we might start talking about an issue one of us was working on, and once that exchange is comfortable then we can move from Facts and Happenings to Principles and Theories holding them up, and so on. I'm not saying we get really really personal from a cold start, but I find that it's not hard to get past small talk. Anyway, you asked for examples and I'm not really giving any, but I think I'll just have to watch the conversations I have and see if I can bring back examples. Making it up or remembering it is escaping me at the moment.

ccc  ·  3343 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What do I do with being lonely?

If they are a bad influence in some way then that's your own thing to decide about. Otherwise, I used to feel like you did, but now I would disagree with this attitude. I talk to people to find the human connection, probe a mind about some interesting topic, establish common ground. The way I did this was to talk to the low-hanging fruit [easy but not lacking value], who already clearly matched what I was looking for, but what I only later discovered was that the connection I'm looking for is almost always there. It's past the universal insecurity and the layers of social protocol.

The common ground is always there too, but sometimes it has to be abstracted a little before the equation is clear. We can move from the concrete what do you do? to the abstract what is your aim and what are you accomplishing? and when we find out that this person is in nursing because they enjoy helping others in a tangible, direct, sometimes urgent way, we can go from there and bridge it to our own concept of how we want to help others, or whatever we feel is our purpose in life and how we're implementing it.

Sometimes if you move too fast on that it can still be weird though. It can be hard to feel out when it's a good time to segue deeper.

I wonder if people who need to talk to somebody are only searching for the start of a proper connection. Surely there are those who just want to run their mouths but I haven't really met very many who want to stay at the surface.

This isn't a call for you to pull anyone out of their shell though. Not really your job if you're not into it. But almost everyone is behind some kind of barrier, and some of the barriers are so strong that a real person can seem to be missing completely, but if you're both interested in connecting, this can be worked through. It was pretty refreshing for me to move from the old way of seeing people, to one where there's always some vein of deep thought and human story to be sought out and mined.

ccc  ·  3352 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: I'm about 15 hours into my switch from smoking to vaping.

If you're ordering little one-time-use cartridges you're not doing it right, not getting the most out of it by far. Go to a shop and ask about how to get a good flavor and nicotine hit, you might have to spend like $100 to start off good but it's worth it. If you make sure you enjoy it then you'll stay on it. If you like it for now then just remember this for later when the novelty wears off.

ccc  ·  3354 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Hubski Hates Opera

Are you using 12.x or the new Chrome fork? Did you use the old Opera before? Totally different experience, really pretty cool.

ccc  ·  3359 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Dealing with the euphemism treadmill?

Yeah, I'd love to see how this develops later on. But if I'm understanding right, these are words that were originally taboo and became milder with the loss of connection to the original taboo. Any thoughts on words that were originally the new polite form, then relegated to taboo to make way for the next one?

ccc  ·  3359 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Dealing with the euphemism treadmill?

Yeah, 'faggot' was a side point saying that I may have a bit of an edge perspective on this, being a gay guy who's fine with a gay slur -- just not used as such. It was never really okay, but some people are on board with the idea of intent vs. words, some gays have taken hold of the word for themselves, etc.

One better example is that it used to be normal to say someone was retarded, and later, or to differentiate from the insult that had developed, mentally retarded -- and then, alongside physical handicap, this developed to disabled, challenged, special needs, and I don't know what else. Is it because people adapt and use them as insults too? It's not like it's going to stop. Changing the words is never going to keep people who want to hurt others from doing so, so why are we making the effort on that front? I don't know if there's anything else to be done about that though.

ccc  ·  3359 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Dealing with the euphemism treadmill?

Sorry, disappeared for the weekend.

This isn't something I really deal with all that often, but sometimes, and I do see it around a good bit. I don't so much mind being wrong about things, but I do mind when I'm made to feel as if I've done something wrong when my intentions are good but I just haven't been caught up on the latest codeword. It all seems rather arbitrary and unfair to give anyone shit about it, which I think is what really gets me going.

I don't want it just to be easy for me or I wouldn't bother with any of this. Anyway, no, option 1 isn't really trying hard enough on my part.

    Also, lots of people have different reactions to different words.

This is the problem I'm getting at. The trend is always moving along on the whole, but at any given time, you can find a lot of different preferences about this. I don't have a problem with making the effort for individuals I know, but when communicating with a group or posting online, I can feel pulled in various directions as to what words I should be using.

I guess one solution could be to check what the latest polite/clinical term is every so often (must be written down somewhere) but some of these terms are so far gone they feel disingenuous.

But, hey, I go around preaching to internet grammar pedants about how they should chill out and let the language evolve, so maybe that's all that's happening -- seems disorientingly fast sometimes though.

Sometimes it seems like people don't look past the words to the intent. They just see the word as packaging a certain intent necessarily. Saying the wrong word can make you the bad guy when they don't check inside to see what's really being communicated.

ccc  ·  3370 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What it's like to drive with a narcissist onboard

Yeah, I remember that from The Narcissism Epidemic now that you mention it. I didn't know it would result in actual speech patterns like that though. Cool stuff.

ccc  ·  3372 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What it's like to drive with a narcissist onboard

Do those statements somehow express the narcissism? They seem like some kind of babyish, strictly observational statements. "Car!" etc.

If there's a connection I'm not seeing it.

ccc  ·  3372 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Has there been a recent influx of new users?

There hasn't been, directly. Some people got mad and swore off reddit because they banned some hateful subreddits (my freeze peaches!!!), then there was an unpopular interim CEO, and then some other stuff that I don't even remember because I actually have things to do.

So those people ran off to Voat or whatever else. In that whole storm of impotently angry discussion on reddit, people suggested various alternative sites. This one was mentioned a little, but not discussed nearly as much as any of the direct reddit clones. I and various others made our way here. The ones who come here looking for a place to leave reddit for; i.e., a copy of reddit without the people/workings undesireable to them, I expect, will soon leave dissatisfied that their hatefulness and pettiness free speech is even less tolerated more oppressed than it is on reddit -- that is, if they didn't get the impression right off.

I wasn't looking to leave, but I took advantage of the flurry of "reddit alternatives" discussion and found a new home to go to along with my own little corner of reddit, away from the bullshit.

ccc  ·  3372 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Guy Robs Bank, Gives 4chan Play-by-Play

1) Subpoena Skype

2) Subpoena ISP

3) ????

4) Conviction!

But yeah, one of the best ways to get caught is to run your mouth (brag for attention) and boy, did this one go all out.

ccc  ·  3383 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Poo-tee-weet?

rockin' robin

ccc  ·  3389 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Looking for a specific song

If it actually involved whistling, maybe it's in here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLinX2udASXfybkSCm75iqKXqKtE1m941f

ccc  ·  3393 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Affinity, anonymity and parameter mismatch: a Hubski hypothesis

  
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ccc  ·  3407 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: How to be polite

I've heard that in some places, using certain nicety phrases in the contexts we would consider normal would be for them rude or strange. Do you check these or just assume the best?

ccc  ·  3407 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Share a picture of your workspace

Bit old but not much has changed.

I haven't done much to make it like home (still need a plant) but I like that I can bring my own keyboard, and I have multiple monitors to arrange.

I wish I had an unpretentious wooden table to write at. Seems it would help the flow.

ccc  ·  3408 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Hello Hubski, you might want to fix your SSL certificates

You can get above C by disabling SSLv3 and maybe above B if you fix the ciphers, and other than that you just have to make a new cert signed with SHA2. Actually the intermediate cert is weak too so I dunno. Maybe a different CA. StartSSL is good. Free.

Here's my config (nginx) that gets me A+ (along with a strong cert):

  ssl_prefer_server_ciphers On;
  ssl_protocols TLSv1 TLSv1.1 TLSv1.2;
  ssl_ciphers ECDH+AESGCM:ECDH+AES256:ECDH+AES128:ECDH+3DES:RSA+AESGCM:RSA+AES:RSA+3DES:!aNULL:!MD5:!DSS;
  ssl_session_cache shared:SSL:20m;
  ssl_session_timeout 10m;
ccc  ·  3410 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: No, It’s Not Your Opinion. You’re Just Wrong

Your post sounds really witty, so I know you're right. To the top with you!

ccc  ·  3411 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: ARE YOU NEW TO HUBSKI? PLEASE READ THIS.....

Pale and loveless?

ccc  ·  3417 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Hubski, what's your wallpaper?

ccc  ·  3423 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What Difference Do Expensive Headphones Make?

You can get velour earpads for them, fixing pretty much the only problem I had with those headphones.

ccc  ·  3424 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Hubski, what other unique websites should we check out?