Last year, lessismore asked the same question for 2012.
I'm wondering how we all faired:
eb -wanted to quit smoking
b_b -To start frequenting the local record and book stores again
zindagi -Wanted to find a girlfriend
dombofix -To learn piano
kleinbl00 - Pregnant (his wife) and finish the novel
caio -To finish college
lessismore - to buy the minimal amount of material items and spend money instead on experiences.
ME -No more than 2 drinks at a time -Um... yeah, that certainly didn't happen ME- No meat for a year. I actually lasted as a vegetarian until the fourth of July. 6 months isn't too shabby for a guy that loves meat.
2013 Resolutions
Me - To quit eating junk food, lose 15 pounds through proper diet and exercise. - To run my first full marathon -Be a more attentive husband and father
What about you Hubski? What are your 2013 resolutions and how did you do in 2012?
Probably a good way to lay out some goals here, so why not? For 2013, I want to be less judgmental of those around me. It's been a real problem lately; I don't really know what to attribute it to, but I know it makes me an asshole most of the time. Rather than seeing something and immediately moving to mild annoyance and self-important critique; rather than seeing the worst in people, I'm going to make a concerted effort to see the best in them. I'm also going to go with a generic one that I imagine lots of people on here have (but important none the less!): In 2013 I want to be more confident. It's something that I've struggled with for most of my life, and it has recently dawned on me that it's one of the most important qualities one can have, whether it's dating, performing well in a job interview, or just having a good effect on the people you might be talking to. Final resolution: more exercise. Not as much for the weight-loss as the mental serenity that routine exercise brings. It's underrated, in my opinion - people don't talk it up as much as they should! This shit is incredible - you feel good afterward, it brings focus, the list goes on. I need more of that!
Well, now I have to become less judgemental too :/ That hit me hard... I'm always seeing the negativity in things. Probably why my ex gf left me :(
Hi kurmit - these are great resolutions. I especially love your resolution to be less judgmental. That can be a tough one! I went through a rough patch a few years back when I was rolling my eyes at everyone and everything around me. It ended up that I was the problem, but I couldn't see it then. The way you write about this tells me that you will be victorious, a kind person in 2013. I hope you post a follow up after some time, because I can always use suggestions on how to see the world and her people as a kinder place.
Hey kurmit, wondering how it is coming with the confidence, being "less judgmental and the exercise? Hope it is going well, I too have been trying to exercise more. I find it difficult as it has been pretty cold of late and my preferred exercise is outdoor running.
Oh! Add me to the list of folks who wants to read your novel! Your little one is adorable - love the alien hat! Best wishes to you in 2013!
She's a beauty, great photo and well done accomplishing that goal. As for the manuscript, I look forward to reading it. I'm sure you have no shortage of people willing to give it a preliminary glance but if you need another set of eyes I'd be happy to help. Good luck finishing and selling the novel.reclaim my wife's boobs from my daughter
Holy shit that made me laugh, thanks for that. -They shall return and if you're lucky they'll be unscathed.
| I'm sure you have no shortage of people willing to give it a preliminary glance but if you need another set of eyes I'd be happy to help.|
The adaptation was terrible but I really enjoyed reading Relic as a 'young adult', and have higher hopes for The Monster of Florence. Under what circumstances did he suggest you write a book? I'm not as familiar with your personal history as others here might be, but interested nonetheless.
He still only has 2 eyes. It would seem you are in good hands.
2012: My goal was to get my surgery and go to physical therapy so I could relearn to walk after I had a bad accident. I haven't gone this long without crutches in three years and next month I have a checkup with my doctor where I should get a clean bill of health. 2013: I want to change jobs. My current job is with some really nice people and it's in my field, but I don't think I'm on the career path that I want so I'm going to arrange some informational interviews at companies I'm interested in and see where I can go.
Hi rorifer, Congrats on meeting your 2012 resolution! That sounds like a tough one, and a satisfying one. Good luck at your doctor's appointment, and I wish for you the best job possible for you, one that is fulfilling, exciting, kind, and expansive.
You are most welcome! I know what you're going through - I was hit by a drunk driver a few years back and broke my back in two places. I had to relearn how to walk, too, and I did! I can even run now. I'm rooting for you to keep healing!!
Hey rotifer, how is it going regarding the changing of jobs? It's a difficult goal that may not be achieved right away at the beginning of the year but hopefully you have been able to lay the ground work for a transition. Also, I hope the doctors appointment went well and that you got that "clean bill" of health.
Mhmmm I´ve been asking myself this question for the past few weeks, I´m never really good at keeping them but I always take this opportunity to actually figure out how I can improve as a person. here´s what I´ve been thinking: Be more productive: I spent too much time in my ass just browsing nonsense that gives nothing back. To fix this I´ve been thinking of reading more books, comic books, maybe start writing my own stories, and play more drums. Be more confident!: I believe this will be the toughest and the one that can help me the most. I´m not shy or anti social by any means, however I struggle of not showing my potential many times, I want to be more confident, and I don´t know maybe meet someone special in the way (btw if anyone has any tips on this that would be great). Learn a new sport: I play soccer already and want to keep playing, however I want to learn somethings new, so I´ve been thinking of archery or rock climbing. Get better grades: I sort of fucked up last semester just by basically doing nothing, I plan to get better grades or no treats for me. Say yes more!: Like I´ve said before I sit on my ass to much, so whenever a friend invites me to go somewhere I´ll say yes. Default:This is the stuff that I tell myself every year but never do. I want to work out just by myself, so I´ve been thinking start slow by either go run every night, or do 100 push up a day, stuff life that. I´ve also been thinking of trying to meditate, I know my mother does it and loves it, so I´m going to give it a try.
So, my favorite of these is "Learn a new sport" and "Say yes more". How are you doing with these? Have you taken up archery or rock climbing yet? -Just say, "yes".
2012: I did comedy. I didn't exercise as much as in 2011. I didn't quit smoking. I drank more than ever. I'm no longer a practicing Catholic but it occurs to me that resolutions are essentially like Lent but exponentially more difficult. 2013: Write and shoot a film on my own. I've worked with friends on writing/shooting films in the past but they're wrapped up with a big project currently and after seeing Stranger than Paradise just last night I figure I should just do my own thing, for once. I'd also like to just generally respect my body a bit more this year. My girlfriend's about to get a kidney transplant and she may eventually need one of mine. It'd better be in decent shape when the time comes! This may be something I shouldn't post to the internet (I've always been a bit paranoid about that, despite the fact that nobody really cares who I am), but I'd like to find more fulfilling work. Lastly, I purchased my first home last year. It's a bit of a fixer-upper, and I'd like all the fixering and upping to be more or less complete by end of year, if not a lot sooner.
I usually don't do new years resolutions, but why not: 1. Finish my bachelors degree, start with the masters
2. Train myself to do 5 pull ups and chin ups at the very least
3. After the pull ups and chin ups, continue with muscle ups
4. Start with parkour
5. Read a book a month
6. Use the internet for recreation 2 hours a day maximum Might be much, but 2,3,and 4 are pretty much one and I am already busy making that a reality.
Great list! I still have to make my resolutions. Thanks thenewgreen for the mention! speeding_snail , I would say number 4 is the easiest on the list! XD Honestly, Parkour is the easiest discipline in the world to begin training. All you need is some tennis shoes, a desire to learn, and some common sense. www.APK.com has some good tips for starting out. Your pull ups, chin ups and muscle ups should help you out a lot in parkour! Best of luck friend!
I'll check the site out. I've been reading up on some parkour related stuff and stumbled upon the blog of Chris Rowat and I must say, I like the mindset of challenging your limits, both physical and mental. Anyway, thanks for the support and tips. Mind if I contact you for tips and to share experiences?
Great stuff! Yes, the fact that the only person you compete against in parkour is yourself, both mentally and physically, is a fantastic thing. It also makes for awesome collaborative communities, so its definitely worth checking out whether there are training groups near you. Yea, by all means! I would love to help in any way I can.
Check out Top Tips for becoming a Parkour Girl -I'm sure it can be of help to guys too. rainbow_boa might be able to give you some pointers. This is a admirable list, I think you can definitely accomplish it. Good luck, just make sure Hubski gets a few minutes of those 2 hours. What's the first book?
I read the article. It was one of those things that made me want to do parkour. I'll make sure to reread it. Hubski is and will be getting most of the time I spend on the internet for recreational use :P The book I will probably be reading will be from the Wheel of Time series or maybe Jules Verne's "A journey to the center of the earth". That, or I'll be rereading Dune. It is not that I dislike reading. On the contrary, I really like reading, but I just don't seem to get to it...
How you doing with the chin-ups and the parkour?
Currently I'm having finals, so all my physical training is laying low. Next week I'm getting back to really training. I almost did one chin-up last week, but I couldn't complete it unfortunately. The parkour is yet to get started (I didn't get it to fit in with learning for my finals). Training starts next week Thursday. Thanks for asking. :-) How are your resolutions coming?
good luck! Mine are not going well at all. I've actually gotten worse with my running instead of better. I could blame the weather or work but the truth is I've not made the time. I signed up for a 10 mile race in March which essentially gives me all of Feb to train. I've not been good about food either. I will change that immediately. Once I'm running a lot, it's hard to eat bad food. -I feel more guilty. I've been a better husband but it's funny how running and diet even impact that. Thanks for asking.
Small things have a bigger impact than you would expect. For example, start drinking water instead of soda and you will feel a lot better after a while. Minor change, big effect. I really admire your new years resolution to be a better dad. Keep it up and be the most awesome dad you can be. Your little one will love you for it :-)
Thanks, I don't drink any soda though. My big problem is food. I tend to grab a quick bite to eat too often which means slices of pizza, burgers et cetera. I need to get back into a healthier diet. But that doesn't include quitting soda, because I really never drink it. -horrible stuff IMO. Beer though.... I was reivigorated by this video to begin a more strident running regiment.
Ah, junk food. It's just too damn tasty (and available everywhere around here). Beer is a social drink for me, so I don't drink it too often, even though I live in the Netherlands :P I loved the video. Also, TNGpodcast is on my follow list :P Good luck with the diet and the running.
Thanks! Would you ever be interested in participating in a podcast? You've been on Hubski a while, it'd be nice to have you on board.
Sure, I would love to help. Just give me a holler.
I resolve: 1. To write one poem a day, every day of the year. The poems can be simple haiku or complicated sonnets, perhaps just a two-line ditty. I have fallen out of writing poetry this past year, and want to return. It grounds me, the writing, the words, the shadow and sublime. I will be posting them at my Cosmic Parrot tumblr. 2. To spend an hour in the outdoors each day, unless the weather is so bad that it is untenable (unlikely here in the desert). I could spend the hour walking, running, thinking, sitting, basking in the sun. It is too easy to let a day pass without time outside. 3. To finish the three novels I have almost completed. I think I have a fear of completion - it can't be a fear of success, because all three novels are so strange that I doubt many people would enjoy them. It would feel great to finish them, toss them into the world. One is a YA novel, the other two are related and have to do with kind zombies, New Mexico, and history.
3 novels?? Wow! Good luck with that, "if you will it, there is no dream". You should post your daily poems here too, that way I can resolve to read a poem a day :)
Yeah, two are done, just need to be reread and edited a bit, and then readied for the Real World. One is in progress, but I should finish it in January. So, if I can get my hand moving, and my brain moving, and my will to let them loose, it shall be done. Trickier than it sounds. Or perhaps not. I will start a poem thread tomorrow!
Hey littlebirdie, how are you doing? I'm not sure if you'll receive this, but if you do please know that I'm wishing you well! How are things going with your resolutions for 2013? Your goals were lofty ones, a poem a day and to publish three novels. -That's a tall order :) Hope you are well my friend!
Sure thing. You can get my info at my little blog, linked in my profile here. One of the novels I've been serializing at Reddit (goddess help me), it's weird, but if you would like to read it, send me a little note and I will send you the link. A poem a day will be tough, but I can do it! Like I said, some poems may be short and sweet (or not so sweet), but it will be a good meditation to help get my mind out of this writing rut it seems to be nurturing. Ruts are good, I think; they force you to consider your crappiness, but I'm ready to move along!
I didn't really have any goals for 2012. For 2013, I have two:
1. Learn Python. The Hard Way.
2. Port the /r/Diablo Chrome extension over to the Firefox and Opera web stores.
I'm not really one for New Years resolutions, but I'll give it a go this year: Create something worth consuming, be it words or music. I've been working on both and haven't made anything I really like yet.
I feel the same way about resolutions, but it´s always a good way to figure out in what you can improve as a person. For instance I also want to write stories, which I´ve never done but I´m looking forward how that works.
I'm sorry for being pessimistic but as I don't really get the whole "let's celebrate this once in a relative amount of time day" I also don't get the "New Year resolution". Why making them so special? Isn't your life should be like "I want this, so now I'm going to do this!", and not use the cleshay courage boosts like some sort of holiday? And why starting them from 1 day specifically and not 2 months ago, when you really wanted/needed this? No, I don't have a new year resolution: I'm going on my way without any stops.
Be more active the rest of the year, people. And make resolutions on a daily base.
I would like to eat healthier (i've gotten quite the little belly from fast food everyday). Start journaling so i can look within and figure out what i really want, start school, (hopefully winter semester, but i'll settle for spring), and lastly branch out socially IRL.
I have more of a 2013 goal than a resolution. I want to finish a rough draft to my first book.
Just started the prologue last night at a NYC Starbucks.
Hey, You've got a million things going on, want to make sure you are still focusing on the book. I'm looking forward to its completion.
Hell yes! How is NYC treating you and why are you working at a Starbucks? Find someone with tight jeans, thick rimmed glasses and an ironic look on their face and ask them where the best coffee shop is. Happy writing!
Get no grade below A- Complete /r/NoFap's 90-day challenge Regularly exercise in some way (cycling? tennis?) Read at least one book for pleasure every month Learn to ski Go back to playing piano regularly Become more outgoing, to the point where I regularly get to know new people
January is nearing a close and I'm wondering if you've read a book for pleasure yet? If not, there is still time. Hope the resolutions are going well.
That's awesome! Are you reading the Hobbit and the LOTR for the first time? I'm envious. That's like hearing the Beatles again for the first time. Wish I could do that.
That's great. I don't want to ruin it for you but... Frodo dies.
Yeah, I've struggled (and failed) all the way through 2012 with abstaining from PMO, so it'll be nice to have a fresh start in my mind.
Back in the day I used to work in restaurants. All day long I would drink pop, probably the equivalent of a 2-litre every day. I weighed the most I've ever weighed during this period. Then, I stopped working there and lost over 20 pounds in a very short amount of time by simply not drinking pop and having water instead. It's seriously amazing how fast it happened and how much better I felt. If this is your intent for 2013, I say go for it. Good luck.
Seconded, it was never quite that bad for me but I cut it out of my diet almost ten years ago and haven't looked back. Did lose a significant amount of weight at the time, as well. I limit my intake to the occasional San Pellegrino or ginger beer on a road trip.
I even quit drinking alcohol mixed with Coke or Tonic. -Don't miss it either and can't believe I ever ruined whiskey with Coke.
I had become so dependent on caffeine at one point that I went through withdrawal symptoms for a week after I decided to drop it cold turkey. I could have something like a coffee in the morning, a Rockstar during the day, and up to 2 litres of coke. I went 6 months with no caffeine before gradually bringing it back into my diet at a more sensible quantity.
Good luck with the website, what you working on? NP if you would rather not say. Good luck with the stress issues. I've been having to deal with a 2 year old throwing tantrums lately and I've been instructing her to just "breathe" and when she does, she calms right down. Amazing what focusing on breathing will do. I know it sounds like new-agey-hippy nonsense but it works.
This year - Better grades in school. Exercise, and maintain exercising! Last year - Read more. Accomplished! Bought a kindle and read 15 classic books
Nice work last year. What type of exercise are you planning to do? I find I'm far more likely to accomplish a goal if I'm specific about it. Good luck and happy new year.
Well I play club lacrosse at Binghamton. So I'm going to try to run a mile at least 3 times a week, and use weight training to try and gain at least 5-10 lbs of muscle by the start of the season. Also I think your goal of being a good husband/father is pretty noble of you. I like people that consciously go about doing that.
It sounds like you have a plan and good luck with the lacrosse, hope you have a good season.
GO BEARCATS!Also I think your goal of being a good husband/father is pretty noble of you.
-the two most important things I do in life, I might as well strive to be the best at them as I can. Both are challenging but most things worthwhile are. I'm a lucky fella.
Fuck New Year's resolutions. Resolutions happen when you're ready to make a change, not because of an arbitrary calendar date. New Year's resolutions just make people feel like failures when they inevitably backslide and "break their resolution" by February, and then cause them to binge on whatever habit they were "quitting" to console themselves for being failures. When the student is ready, the resolution will appear. That said, I made some positive changes in my life--because I was ready--in 2012, which I intend to continue in 2013. I quit Reddit almost entirely, started dealing with some control issues that go back to early childhood for me, and worked on making Doing the Right Thing my default reaction, even when said Right Thing is also the harder choice.
A couple of people have been of the Fuck New Year's resolutions ilk in this thread for the same reason you mention. I can't speak for everyone but the resolutions that I mentioned are things that I've been working towards for a while. I didn't just start running on Jan 1st, I haven't just started being a husband and father etc. These are things I am constantly striving to be better at, therefore I just decided to put a more concrete focus on them for 2013. I am by default a goal oriented person, I make daily, weekly, monthly, annual and life goals. I like using the first of the year as a way to challenge myself. I have set up a 10 mile run for March. I'll likely do a 1/2 marathon in April and in June I'll begin shooting for a 15 mile run -which will be the furthest I've ever gone. -HOW COOL IS THAT? Then eventually towards the end of the year I will run my first full Marathon. I like the do the right thing resolution. It's a hard one and is the reason so many people wear those WWJD bracelets.
Religion is so interesting to me in that sense. I wasn't raised with any religion (not even atheism-as-quasi-religion) and I've become a little bit infatuated with the human aspects of religion -- the reasons someone might feel a calling to ministry, the way that it can lift people beyond their circumstances in periods of poverty, the guilt/confession aspect, all of it. It's just fascinating what an amplifier spirituality can be for both the best and the worst of humanity, and how the concept of "amplification" is reflected in church design (amphitheaters, mega-churches, and even old cathedrals...) and in auditory religious traditions, like church organs, choirs, Quran chanting, and so on and so forth. I was really touched to see a woman in church on Christmas Eve who gave up her candle (I went to a candlelit ceremony) to a man who was sitting alone refusing to take Communion, even in a United Methodist church where there are no requirements to take Communion. He then got up and joined everyone else holding candles, although he kept his eyes down and kept crossing himself. What was eating at him to make him feel unable to take Communion? What made her turn away from the spectacle of the service and notice another human hunched over in a pew almost invisible? The WWJD seems more like voicing hope -- "I hope when I'm confronted with something difficult that I will remember I think about the right thing." On the other hand, it's become such a style and so in-your-face on t-shirts and more than just bracelets that I tend to have the opposite reaction to flaunting WWJD paraphernalia, in that I wonder what's wrong with the person that they need to tell everyone around them that they follow "what Jesus would do." Is their own moral code that deficient?
That's my take on it. As an aside, mk and I drunkenly made an agreement that once we had over 100k users on Hubski we'd get the Hubski logo tattooed on us. Think I'll steal that "wrist" idea should that day ever come.I wonder what's wrong with the person that they need to tell everyone around them that they follow "what Jesus would do." Is their own moral code that deficient?
I have a friend that got a tattoo of an exclamation point on his wrist. It resides just below the face of his wrist-watch. He got it to constantly remind himself that time is running out. A sort of carpe diem like tattoo. I think the WWJD wristbands, ideally, are used for this purpose, to remind the person wearing it that an example exists on how to act, behave and decide according to a moral code. I don't think it's supposed to be there to "tell everyone" anything, just to tell the person wearing it something.
You have a friend who still wears a wristwatch?! Seriously, though -- yes, I think the personal reminder is valid for subtle wristbands, but the ballcaps, hoodies, t-shirts, and whole fashion smorgasbord are really a bit much. I've considered getting a tattoo in homage to an email list at my company. Yes, that IS pathetic, but I really really love this list. However, I'll remember this and demand to see the tats if the 100K point comes...
Hope you are well!I'll remember this and demand to see the tats if the 100K point comes...
It may not be too far fetched at this point...
I agree, the hats and shirts are definitely about marketing and not about subtly reminding yourself of your moral compass. I have a feeling mk might try to finagle his way out of the deal based on being drunk at the time of its inception. Anyone here practice contractual law? Hey! I still wear a watch.
Nice! One more semester, that's got to be a good feeling. You're studying linguistics, right? Any post grad plans?
Psycholinguistics, but I'm thinking of switching it to something more literature-related for the post-grad. I would like to do a most-assuredly-useless MFA, but they don't have those here. Interesting fact: in 2014, the World Cup'll come to Brazil. That means the country needs engineers and architects and all those people, so the humanities are really taking a beating.
Come to the US. I have no justification for that statement regarding job opportunities in the humanities, it's just a ploy to get you to a Hubski gathering.
I want to do #onegameamonth and make a small game a month. In 2012 I tried doing the Github Game Off challenge, but lost motivation because it was an unfamiliar toolchain for me (HTML5 canvas). For OGAM I'm going to try and stick to my roots with small java applet games which I like making. This time next year the world will have hopefully have 12 new games.
Every year, I usually give myself one impossible goal to reach, usually in order to really kick myself into gear where I wouldn't if I just said "I'll be more diligent this year". I never reach my goal, but I do make great progress in doing so, and best of all, it gives something concrete to aspire towards instead of "I'll waste less time", which is vague and can easily be ignored. This year I'll have these impossible goals, and make them even crazier: 1.Learn Attic Greek in 6 months. Last year I said I was going to learn Latin and um, didn't. Perhaps since I didn't give myself an ETA I procrastinated. "Oh, I'll do that next month"-ing until there were no months left. 2.Learn to play the piano well enough to play this: http://youtu.be/WqmOp_rKRqo I've had a keyboard for the longest time just doing nothing on my damned desk, taking up space, saying: "You know, I'd be a lot more useful if you knew how to use me better". Well, I'll be insane and not only learn how to use you, I'll learn you enough to play one of (According to renowned concert pianist Sviatoslav Richter) the hardest piano pieces ever. My ETA? Until my birthday, or about 9 months. Will I be able to do it? I am always optimistic even with odds like THAT, which is like a .00000001% chance of me doing so, and that percent is taking in the far off possibility that I am a prodigy and never realized it. Along the way, I hope to learn some really awesome, easier pieces that totally weren't my true goal... Nope, not at all. 3. Be able to do 100 push-ups in one row. My ETA? In two weeks. I almost did this last year. I was up to 75 push-ups at a time and I was going to get 100, until I got lazy and certain stuff got in the way. Right now, it seems 40 is the amount I can do before wanting to quit. I know I'll be hurting tomorrow just from those 40 alone (Plus another 10 I did just to get it to 50). 4. I will enter a loving relationship with the woman of my dreams... Oh, this is the toughest... My ETA? For the rest of my life! I think I'll be able to do all the previous 3 before even getting close to doing this...
1. 6 months is pretty ambitious. We are 2 days in to 2013, have you learned any Greek? 2. That is a beautiful piece and it says it was recorded live. Wonderful playing. I know that you are a classical music fan and wish you well with this one. 3. I like this goal. I too should make a push-up goal. Such an easy thing to do anywhere. There's no excuse for me to not do strength training so long as the push up and sit up exist. 4. You can do it!
1. Yes! I have a book from 1898 on Greek Grammar that I purchased at some estate sale sitting on my desk and I have this place on reddit bookmarked: http://www.reddit.com/r/IntroAncientGreek/?count=75&afte... I know all the alphabet and the first declension already for nouns (And thanks to my failed Latin studies, I think I know exactly how they work), as well as the pronunciations and a couple of words. Today I plan on going all the way to Lesson VII on reddit (and more, if time will allow) and whatever amount of pages on the Greek grammar book. I also have Anki, a spaced-repetition flashcard program aiding me in memorizing the words! I'm already firing on all cylinders! 2. Thankfully I already know how to read music pretty well as I have some minor experience playing the flute and trumpet (Which I hope to pick up both again one day as well). The hardest part is getting my fingers to play with that smoothness that you see when other people play the piano... As a beginner, how they just dance along the keys and manage to make everything sound beautiful just looks impossible. 3. You should! It's actually easy once you get the routine down and get past the initial hurt. Actually I was planning on adding sit-ups as well, but imo those are much easier. I was able to do 100 of those once and am content with doing about 20 to 50 crunches however many times I want. 4. I can't help but be optimistic. I try being depressed, but after a few days I just stop and go back to being optimistic, even when I should still be legitimately depressed. It must be in my nature, I guess; I'm sure I can do it!
Same as last year; not to make any resolutions.
To be the person that people want to be around. I read that cracked article posted here, and it really did change my life. Or maybe it hasn't, it's only been a day. Only some parts of relevant to me, for instance, I do have 'talents' to 'offer' to the world, I love playing the guitar, I debate on my school's team, I have some knowledge of philosophy (but my curiosity only means it grow everyday), physics, and computer science. Well guess what though, I'm a jerk. I'm not pretentious, I don't try to sugur coat how 'smart' I am, I don't think I'm a better person for it, not at all. My problem lies in the same place as Kurmit's resolution I log into Facebook and I practically go "what a bunch of idiots". I talk to people and they don't know something, my mind automatically thinks "wow, that was absolute common knowledge". It's really making me a jerk, and someone who no one but other 'intellectuals' want to be around. You know who my friends are? A musical prodigy, a talented writer, and this guy who I discuss philosophy/futurology with. I find it hard to be friends with anyone who I can't talk to, and not judge, and my parameters before judging are a little too demanding. It's easier online, I've yet to meet someone on Hubski I don't respect for instance. With the huge myriad of people online, it's much easier to find people I connect with, and that's what my steam friends list is filled with. People I've met. People from smaller subreddits, etc. In real life though? I'm a pain to be around. I ramble and rant and scold, and I need to stop. What's sad though? I had alienated myself so much that I didn't realize how unapproachable I was until I met a special person who like my other friends I can talk to, yet is nice to everyone. Not to say I'm not nice.. A better term would be non-judgmental. She's non-judgmental of anyone. I'm sitting here calling myself open-minded and she's out there being open-minded. I'm here thinking I need to go out more and she's there hiking Yosemite. It's really humbling and inspiring. Wow that was long.. And pointless. I'm sorry if anyone took the time to read about my pathetic resolution.."For 2013, I want to be less judgmental of those around me. It's been a real problem lately; I don't really know what to attribute it to, but I know it makes me an asshole most of the time. Rather than seeing something and immediately moving to mild annoyance and self-important critique; rather than seeing the worst in people, I'm going to make a concerted effort to see the best in them."
There are a bunch of changes I want to make to my lifestyle, but my specific goal is to learn a tune a week for the mandolin. I've been trying to make playing it more of a habit - with some success - but only know a handful of tunes and it's quite boring. Maybe I'll record some and put them on Hubski, if they don't sound like crap. Other stuff: Run more: I went jogging fairly frequently this year, but then there were large stretches where I didn't get any exercise at all. I want to keep it up this year. The same goes for pushups. Be more productive: this is twofold; firstly, I need to pursue my university work more ardently, and secondly (in order to do so) I need to quit wasting so much time in mindless consumption of movies, games and pornography. On that note: Quit pornography and masturbation: I have a rather serious problem here that is impacting on other areas of my life (see Your Brain on Porn ), but it's not as easy to stop as you might think. Always, that little voice ends up convincing me to give in. Save money: looking over this past semester, I've clearly gone over budget, and if I don't do something the last several months of next semester will be extremely painful. Walk barefoot: I've recently experimented with walking around barefoot but had to walk shod again because of the cold. The weather is much milder now, though, so I may try to get back into it. Cold showers: For about a month I was taking showers with little to no hot water; then, after early morning jogs that half-froze me, I wouldn't have the willpower to face a cold shower, and after caving a few times I quickly found myself always taking hot ones. I'd like to go back to cold showers - apparently there are a bunch of health benefits, but specifically my facial skin would be much less dry. Learn French: I've made a bunch of French friends in the past few months, and would like to take my extremely rudimentary French to being able to carry a conversation.
Hey, just read this post: about porn and thought it might be helpful to you in your quest to be "master of your domain". Good luck pal!
Run: I too plan on running more. I was hard core for most of 2012 but lapsed the last 2 months. I resolve to run 3 times a week for no less than 4 miles each time. Be more productive: This ancient proverb hangs on my office wall "There is no beauty but the beauty of action". Quit porn: Good luck, it's an alluring thing, to be sure. Walk Barefoot: Alright. Cold Showers: Didn't realize there were health benefits to this. I love steaming hot showers myself except for after a run. French: I wanted to do this a few years back but the course I planned to sign up for was full.
To take better care of myself. Physically to complete the New Rules of Lifting for Women, which shouldn't be too taxing-I'm a gym rat anyway. Mentally to make sure my last semester at my university is fulfilling, and that I actually try to attend some of the great events offered. Emotionally to learn to appreciate myself, and figure out some self-care. I'm in a position where I have to act as a rock for a lot of people, and it gets taxing.
2012: enter to medicine school, I did but not how I expected 2013: applied at school so I can come back home,(this is more like a 2 year resolution) Start working out doing bodyweight, live healthier, stop drinking Cola soda.
2013: Work more toward my goal of being like the man who quit money. 2012: To practice bass more. Which I can say I achieved. I didn't practice as much as I would have liked, but it was a large increase from 2011.