It would be pretty ok if more advice was given in this format. I can think of a lot of people who need to be reminded of at least one of these on a regular basis. Honestly, I think I and every guy I know needs to be reminded of #4 regularly.
This is the kind of thing that needs to be included in life skills classes in highschool. Every young man needs to hear this.
Men are often more overtly creepy, yes. But it seriously bugs me how women often assume interest in normal, mundane conversation. Look, just because I acknowledge you existence doesn't mean I am interested; I'm merely initiating social contact on a basic human level. Why does this happen? I think partially it can be attributed to sweeping claims that men are a certain way, or women act a certain way. They don't. Things like this are always distilled down into a black and white dichotomy, which is unhealthy for all parties. It propagates prejudice that is then applied to the entire male or female population. I absolutely disagree that more advice should be given in this format. It convinces a lot of women that no men are to be trusted, and pisses a lot of men off and causes them to not take feminism seriously. Both are unhealthy.
Someone needs to read Tip #5, it'll help you out.
You're a pretty funny guy. "I hate how women think I'm creepy" -> Great advice on how to not be a creep "STOP POLARIZING OPINIONS" Also, you're projecting your insecurities here. Not a single sweeping claim is made.
First of all, you twisted my words. I never said women think I'm creepy, I've never had an issue with that. I do just fine in that regard, and by no means am I insecure about it. Second, keep the ad hominem off this site, it's not welcome here, and it definitely doesn't make your argument any stronger. Third, open your mind. Listen to people have to say. If you want to be able to post something to have 100 people pat you on the back and shake your hand, I can assure you that this isn't the place. There are other places on the internet that do that much better than here. There definitely is a sweeping claim here. It is "men, stop doing X". That is a claim suggesting a large group of people do some thing. That is the definition of a sweeping claim.
"There definitely is a sweeping claim here. It is "men, stop doing X". That is claim suggesting a large group of people do some thing. That is the definition of a sweeping claim.
reply" This claim exists only in your head. Please quote where in those posters that claim was made.
People don't realize when they are being creepy or boring. Should we tell them directly? Here's a blog I wrote last year on this topic. As for rozap's comments, I'd really love to see a list of tips to women who often assume interest in normal, mundane conversation.
I'd love to read "Ma Bells Revenge", and I agree that some people need to know that they are acting inappropriately. That said, should we really be making posters saying "don't throw telephones"? Can we agree that these men are the exception, not the rule? I think perhaps this is rozap's overall point. By making such posters, it assumes that these are the default behaviors of most men.
Exactly, we should tell them directly. It's more effective, and it renders sweeping generalizations like the original post unnecessary. People need to be more direct. I'm not a confrontational guy, but I recall one time at a bar I was making polite conversation which by no measure suggested I was interested (like, talking about the weather or something while waiting in line for a drink) and the girl made some comment along the lines of "sorry, I don't hook up with guys I meet at bars" and I was pretty awestruck by her leap in thinking. So I told her directly, "Don't flatter yourself, honey". Definitely blunt, perhaps a little rude, but I'd like to think it made her reconsider her stupid behaviour. The same bluntness needs to be directed towards a lot of men.