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rozap  ·  4332 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: How to not be a creep

Men are often more overtly creepy, yes. But it seriously bugs me how women often assume interest in normal, mundane conversation. Look, just because I acknowledge you existence doesn't mean I am interested; I'm merely initiating social contact on a basic human level.

Why does this happen? I think partially it can be attributed to sweeping claims that men are a certain way, or women act a certain way. They don't. Things like this are always distilled down into a black and white dichotomy, which is unhealthy for all parties. It propagates prejudice that is then applied to the entire male or female population.

I absolutely disagree that more advice should be given in this format. It convinces a lot of women that no men are to be trusted, and pisses a lot of men off and causes them to not take feminism seriously. Both are unhealthy.





ThomasPancake  ·  4332 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Someone needs to read Tip #5, it'll help you out.

rozap  ·  4332 days ago  ·  link  ·  

That wasn't the point of my comment. I wished to convey that these sorts of posts polarize opinions on a matter that is much more complex and sensitive than a strict, black and white "men are creepy"/"Women are presumptuous" load of drivel.

ThomasPancake  ·  4332 days ago  ·  link  ·  

You're a pretty funny guy.

"I hate how women think I'm creepy"

-> Great advice on how to not be a creep

"STOP POLARIZING OPINIONS"

Also, you're projecting your insecurities here. Not a single sweeping claim is made.

rozap  ·  4332 days ago  ·  link  ·  

First of all, you twisted my words. I never said women think I'm creepy, I've never had an issue with that. I do just fine in that regard, and by no means am I insecure about it.

Second, keep the ad hominem off this site, it's not welcome here, and it definitely doesn't make your argument any stronger.

Third, open your mind. Listen to people have to say. If you want to be able to post something to have 100 people pat you on the back and shake your hand, I can assure you that this isn't the place. There are other places on the internet that do that much better than here.

There definitely is a sweeping claim here. It is "men, stop doing X". That is a claim suggesting a large group of people do some thing. That is the definition of a sweeping claim.

ThomasPancake  ·  4332 days ago  ·  link  ·  

"There definitely is a sweeping claim here. It is "men, stop doing X". That is claim suggesting a large group of people do some thing. That is the definition of a sweeping claim. reply"

This claim exists only in your head. Please quote where in those posters that claim was made.

rozap  ·  4332 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I think we can agree that this is aimed at a male audience, as evidenced by number 4. As an example, the first poster says to learn how to manage your sex drive, suggesting that I don't have it under control.

Anyway, I'm done here.

user92  ·  4331 days ago  ·  link  ·  

This whole comment thread is making a strong argument for collapsible comments.

rozap  ·  4331 days ago  ·  link  ·  

True, though I'm guilty of taking the bait.