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Grendel  ·  3411 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: But Jezebel told me that it's men who objectify women...

I'm of the opinion that sexuality is inherently objectifying, so it doesn't surprise me in the least to find out that women have their own standards of beauty that they apply to potential boyfriends.

It's not even a case of those standards being "unfair" because it's in women's genes to prefer tall men. They can't exactly choose to like short guys any more than men can choose to like fat chicks.

What annoys me is how we only blame men for being shallow. We shouldn't blame anyone for having a physical preference, but we could at least be fair in how we assign the blame.

Anyway, what does "non-hwp people" mean? I've never heard that before.

And yeah, some Hubski users have decided that they're going to do everything in ther power to remind me that I'm not welcome here. Not content with muting and slandering me, now they want me to leave. Since I'm still here and we've muted/blocked each other, they have to resort to these tactics.

I've already told mk about the abuse of community hashtags a couple of weeks ago, and he said that if it becomes an issue, they will make tags non-anonymous. I doubt that it will prevent my fans from abusing them, however, since they've proven to be quite shameless in their affection towards me.

I wonder what would happen if I started tagging all their threads with personal messages. Would it become an issue then?

    Also, does everyone have me muted or blocked because I follow Grendel?

Muting someone simply because he follows a user you don't like is something an intolerant and close-minded person like me would do, but surely Hubski is above that...

But then again one of my followers was recently asked by a certain user if he was actually me using an alternate account. Apparently he agreed with me a little too much!

So who knows, you might be paying the price for not following the right users, or maybe you just made the mistake to disagree with the wrong users. I feel sorry for you, at least I know why I'm being ostracised.





SadPandaIsSad  ·  3411 days ago  ·  link  ·  

And now that user has responded to my not namimg him saying that I should have named him when I didn't name him out of respect. What's most funny about it is that he says that we contribute in no way and only harm discussion. I don't know about you Grendel but I haven't seen you make any point that isn't directed toward changing (or at least making people aware of) something that you see is unfair. It's not about hating on feminists. It's about how it has been turned into "men are bad and will hurt you and shame on men for doing the same things we do to them."

What I don't get is that if a woman comes on and says stuff about how men are being bigoted towards women it's cool and everyone cheers them on for being so brave. But of a man complains about women being bigots he is immediately ostracized or people just ignore it. I find this double standard astounding. How can someone complain about a double standard and then perpetuate their own double standard. It's quite literally insane.

Side note I will still not be relinquishing the persons name or of respect for that person's personal beliefs.

crafty  ·  3411 days ago  ·  link  ·  

My personal view is that sexual preferences are confusing mix of instinct, biology and culture, perhaps something random in there too. Like you say, it maybe fun or easy, or in today's feminist vogue, to criticize men for having physical preferences, but everyone has them, men and women, and I think it's important to keep things in perspective; that the love and happiness from a partner in a long-term relationship requires qualities that go beyond being skin-deep, and in fact, people who only look skin-deep will likely miss potential soulmates.

    Anyway, what does "non-hwp people" mean? I've never heard that before.

HWP stands for height-width proportionate, so non-hwp is my polite way of saying chubby people. I personally don't care if someone is tall or short, thick or thin, but flabby is something I try to avoid when it comes to sex.

    I wonder what would happen if I started tagging all their threads with personal messages. Would it become an issue then?

I'm sure it would, but please don't. It's best to stay above the fray as much as possible; people already accuse you of trolling enough as is, I don't think it's wise to give them ammunition by trolling them back, even if it is to make a point.

    So who knows, you might be paying the price for not following the right users, or maybe you just made the mistake to disagree with the wrong users. I feel sorry for you, at least I know why I'm being ostracised.

Eh, it's fine. If it makes them feel better, I suppose that is what they need. I don't think I've really lost anything of value by learning who the more easily offended judgy-types are.