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kleinbl00  ·  3935 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Did you ask your father in law if you could marry his daughter?

You gotta be careful, though. It really depends on the mix of the people involved. No matter how you slice it, Daddy knows Baby is getting proposed to before Baby does.

How does that sit with Baby? FWIW, "engagement rings" are a 100-year-old invention created by DeBeers as a convenient way of monetizing the decline of the "bride price."

a lengthy treatise from the past.





_refugee_  ·  3930 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    How does that sit with Baby?

Exactly. I have always had negative thoughts on this concept. Yes, I want my dad to be okay with who I marry if I do so, but at the same time, assuming I've bought into the relationship enough to want to get married (and a man would be an idiot to propose to a woman not knowing if she wanted to get married, and hopefully, to them), if my dad says no, ain't gonna matter. And that has always been my go-to argument: OK, so you're asking "permission." What happens when Daddy says no ?

Now that I think about it, I was engaged once. I don't think the guy asked my dad but I think it was also due to, well, my vehement disagreement with this topic.