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_refugee_  ·  3930 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Did you ask your father in law if you could marry his daughter?

    How does that sit with Baby?

Exactly. I have always had negative thoughts on this concept. Yes, I want my dad to be okay with who I marry if I do so, but at the same time, assuming I've bought into the relationship enough to want to get married (and a man would be an idiot to propose to a woman not knowing if she wanted to get married, and hopefully, to them), if my dad says no, ain't gonna matter. And that has always been my go-to argument: OK, so you're asking "permission." What happens when Daddy says no ?

Now that I think about it, I was engaged once. I don't think the guy asked my dad but I think it was also due to, well, my vehement disagreement with this topic.