I don't know about the 'duh'. Sometimes 'available' or 'accessible' can be a great surrogate for 'desirable'.Naturally, men (like women) desire sex and desire sex with desirable partners (duh)...
You're right, I did just quote myself. That was a line from a poem I wrote long ago, in a province far away. I have never ever had a reason to say it since or even think of it until I read your line above. humanodon I would so love to see that as a fortune cookie.
I don't think what you're saying disagrees with what I wrote. Sometimes "available" or "accessible" = desirable, you know, somewhat like how financial stability or a great personality can trump physical attractiveness. Desire is not a clear cut thing, after all.
Guess I'm conflating desirable with attractive. I once hooked up with a not-so-attractive woman in a ladies bathroom on the Upper East Side. I would in no way consider her desirable by the light of day, but I suppose at the time--when I was probably 15 beers deep and it was 3 am--that's what I 'desired', so to speak. Still I think desirable is a loaded word that implies something positive.
I see what you're saying. For me, desirable seems more dispassionate than say, attractive, but I think they're both right there in that zone. I think I've read that beer goggles are a real phenomenon, so yeah. I mean, if enough alcohol is added to a situation, all kinds of stuff seems like a good idea, but I think that might have something to do with removing enough inhibitions that our base urges come out, well, naked. Sometimes a body just feels the urge to stick into another person.Still I think desirable is a loaded word that implies something positive.
I once hooked up with a not-so-attractive woman in a ladies bathroom on the Upper East Side. I would in no way consider her desirable by the light of day, but I suppose at the time--when I was probably 15 beers deep and it was 3 am--that's what I 'desired', so to speak.