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humanodon  ·  3956 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: A Cold War Fought By Women - NY Times

I don't think what you're saying disagrees with what I wrote. Sometimes "available" or "accessible" = desirable, you know, somewhat like how financial stability or a great personality can trump physical attractiveness. Desire is not a clear cut thing, after all.





b_b  ·  3956 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Guess I'm conflating desirable with attractive. I once hooked up with a not-so-attractive woman in a ladies bathroom on the Upper East Side. I would in no way consider her desirable by the light of day, but I suppose at the time--when I was probably 15 beers deep and it was 3 am--that's what I 'desired', so to speak. Still I think desirable is a loaded word that implies something positive.

humanodon  ·  3956 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    Still I think desirable is a loaded word that implies something positive.

I see what you're saying. For me, desirable seems more dispassionate than say, attractive, but I think they're both right there in that zone.

    I once hooked up with a not-so-attractive woman in a ladies bathroom on the Upper East Side. I would in no way consider her desirable by the light of day, but I suppose at the time--when I was probably 15 beers deep and it was 3 am--that's what I 'desired', so to speak.

I think I've read that beer goggles are a real phenomenon, so yeah. I mean, if enough alcohol is added to a situation, all kinds of stuff seems like a good idea, but I think that might have something to do with removing enough inhibitions that our base urges come out, well, naked. Sometimes a body just feels the urge to stick into another person.

_refugee_  ·  3956 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Exactly the point I was going to make. Sometimes "desirable" can be as simple as "someone who desires us."