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lightsandcandy  ·  3403 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Do you keep a journal or a notebook?

Have you started that journal back up? :)

lightsandcandy  ·  3409 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Why gender neutral clothing could finally catch on

Less gendered clothing styles are definitely more popular!

But isn't it true that not typically feminine clothes still have to fit more feminine bodies? These are "masculine" outfits that could be worn by anyone, but if I were to take the exact articles from the backs of these men and tried to wear them, they wouldn't fit. I'm shorter, have narrower shoulders, and different hips.

So there's a user base who would like clothes like that, but there would still have to be a women's section (or a way to indicate what clothes would probably fit women-type-bodies) and a men's section, even if the styles were the same.

lightsandcandy  ·  3409 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Why gender neutral clothing could finally catch on

That's an excellent way to say it.

lightsandcandy  ·  3409 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Why gender neutral clothing could finally catch on

I like the idea, but male bodies and female bodies are shaped very differently. I like having the same style, but in terms of actual fit, this may not be feasible .

Thoughts?

Wow.... That is so much fan engagement. Like, Those letters aren't a generic sentence. Wow.... How... Shes... OKAY I"M A FAN.

lightsandcandy  ·  3411 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: We are more often frightened than hurt...

This quote tells us to step back and assess what exactly is causing suffering. I love it. Stoicism is kind of confusing to me, I haven't been able to find a satisfying summary of what it is, could you help out?

lightsandcandy  ·  3411 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: July 22, 2015

Docs really are the most comfortable shoe. Stylish too, depending on the decade. And they last long enough for a single pair to be stylish, go out of style, and become stylish again.

My mother (36) wore a pair of silver calf high quick lace docs while hiking all over Europe. She handed them down to me (19) when I was in middle school. They were totally all the rage at my8th grade winter dance.

This is excellent! This makes me want to be a Taylor Swift fan.

lightsandcandy  ·  3414 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What is your day like? What is your typical routine?

4am is really early. :( What kind of work do you do where you work from 6:30ish to 2? Did you choose those hours? What time do you get to sleep?

lightsandcandy  ·  3414 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What happens when you put 10 Apple engineers in a kitchen?

I want one but honestly I probably wouldn't use it. Seems like an excellent idea for people who might not be able to cook normally (but want to). Also people who tend to forget to turn off ovens...

lightsandcandy  ·  3420 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Dogecoin: The Most Stable Cryptocurrency?

I wonder how much the good natured doge community influences its stability. I've never seen a negative doge coin er.

lightsandcandy  ·  3426 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Hubski, do you have any Jazz recommendations?

I like Antonio Sanchez. He's the person who composed the soundtrack for Birdman. He's a Jazz drummer and I think he's fantastic.

lightsandcandy  ·  3427 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Play this weird, low-fi peasant simulator from the designer of Threes

This is fantastic. And addicting. damn you. :P

lightsandcandy  ·  3428 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Do you keep a journal or a notebook?

I use a variation of the bullet journal system in the header of my journal. Here's a digital sketch, sorry about my handwriting

lightsandcandy  ·  3428 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Hubski, what are your hobbies, and how did you discover them?

I love the idea of tabletops. I just haven't been able to find any groups, so I just dick off by myself with some various tabletop PDFs and let my mind wander.

Do you have any tips for finding a group?

I have a similar story.

Recently I caught myself thinking "man I should find pictures of my Texan grandparents /r/oldschoolcool would love them!" Rather than wanting to find them to have pictures of my grandparents..... Karma is dangerously addictive.

lightsandcandy  ·  3428 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Do you keep a journal or a notebook?

Could you link me to an example?

lightsandcandy  ·  3428 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Do you keep a journal or a notebook?

What's a chronodeck?

lightsandcandy  ·  3428 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: A Series Of Unfortunate Events teaser trailer!

I didn't even like Jim Carry... He was way more overhanded than I'd've liked him to be.

lightsandcandy  ·  3428 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Einstein's Notebook

My biggest takeaway from this is that I'm not the only person who does math and physics in pen. So many people call me crazy.

lightsandcandy  ·  3428 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: A Series Of Unfortunate Events teaser trailer!

I am very excited. I hadn't heard about this until now! I absolutely loved those books as a kid, and absolutely hated the shitty movie they made of it a few years back. I trust Netflix, and I think it could really work as a show.

The detail in this trailer makes me feel as if the makers are true fans rather than just someone trying to capitalize on something popular.

Now I want to re-read the books.

lightsandcandy  ·  3428 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Something is wrong right now, and I'm not sure why.

College is kind of like getting your feet wet in lots of different subjects, and Community College isn't expensive at all.

Other than that, I'd suggest trying to minimize self loathing, and to be okay with yourself. I find some Buddhist ideas are helpful for that, The Four Noble Truths and the Noble Eightfold Path are core pillars to my own mental health.

lightsandcandy  ·  3428 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What are your bedtime rituals?

What's your routine other than waking up at 5?

lightsandcandy  ·  3428 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What are your bedtime rituals?

What's your playlist?

lightsandcandy  ·  3430 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What book(s) are your favorite read?

I love House of Leaves . It's a puzzle, mystery, riddle, and novel all in one. Pretty excellent and weird.

Edit: The Kingkiller Chronicle is also amazing if you're into fantasy and magic Universities.

lightsandcandy  ·  3430 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: How to Structure Your Days If You’re Depressed

It seems the elements of this article can be summarized into two parts.

1. Wiggle your big toe.

Or: Success Spirals. Starting small, and feeling successful in small tasks lends momentum to do bigger tasks. "Spirals are deviation-amplifying loops in which the positive, cyclic relationship between perceived efficacy and performance builds upon itself." From the abstract of this article.

Heres a blog post from ZenHabits that also talks about it.

2. Form routines&Habits

Or: Avoid Ego Depletion. Ego depletion is the idea that self control & willpower are limited tanks of gas, and when you run out self control becomes extremely difficult. The other part of this idea is that Autopilot tasks don't take as much willpower, and so take less gas.

Heres the Wikipedia article for ego depletion

Heres a podcast about ego depletion

lightsandcandy  ·  3430 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Learning poetry by heart

What are the poems?

lightsandcandy  ·  3430 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Learning poetry by heart

I find Robert Frost excellent for memorization.

    Some say the world will end in fire
    Some say in Ice
    From what I've tasted of desire
    I hold with those who favor fire
    But if it had to parish twice
    I think I know enough of hate
    To say that for destruction ice
    Is also great
    And would suffice
lightsandcandy  ·  3430 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Life and growing up

I feel like this is a benefit of anonymity: People don't like to talk about their hardships that lead to change. It could be embarrassing, and no one likes admitting they were ever wrong.

lightsandcandy  ·  3430 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Life and growing up

I'm happy that you grew to understand what people like me go through.

When I'm depressed and stressed, I think about suicide as a way out. But thinking about suicide actually makes me more depressed, more hopeless.

Suicide used to be an option for me. Then I tried it- failed - and when my mom found out she cried so hard she vomited. I really love my mother. She's the person whose emotions I feel most in synch with. When she's in a bad mood- I can tell. When I was a kid, she could make me cry with a look of disappointment. My worst nightmares have always been dreams of her dying. So seeing her bent over the kitchen sink while I stood a few feet away crying through the numbness of my depression really changed my perspective on my own suicide.

I've experienced what most suicidal people never will - a taste of the aftermath of my death and I didn't like it one bit. So: Suicide is not an option anymore.

But the thoughts still come up again. It is overwhelmed panic where the only way out seems to be six feet down. The thoughts resurface, but that path feels as equally closed off as all the others, and I feel even more trapped like I am standing in a box barely big enough to hold me.

But at least I am alive. And at least my mom is happy.