This comment is offensive as death to someone who grew up with a narcissist. "How dare you hate someone for beating you every time you made a mistake? You should just take it and be happy someone is allowing you to live at all." Id sooner be dead than grateful. And im an accomplished chemist, not a kid heading into college. Parents do not always have their children's best interest at heart, and to suggest that this is all in his head is condescending and the primary reason children get stuck taking the abuse.

I also had to pay my way through college, and I now have a phd. That was piss easy compared to standing the abuse. You really have no frame of reference here.