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Quatrarius  ·  1781 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: January 8, 2020  ·  

the year has begun wonderfully

now going by new name and pronouns openly (with the only people not knowing are the ones it hasn't come up yet around them with): parents also like the new name (my mum and i teared up together talking about it) and trying their darndest to use em - it's amazing how much weight is off my back already

3 days into the new semester and I'm feeling good about academics so far, things are more interesting so far at least so we'll see how it goes

i went on a bountiful shopping trip and finally found some comfy tank tops among other purdy things

gonna start hitting the gym again this weekend / upon getting a feel for how the flow of each week will go / when the january crowd eases slightly

also gonna make a bunch of phone calls for haircut / piercing / therapy appointments to get the ball rolling on all of that

updates pending





lil  ·  1781 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Congrats Q on your new pronouns.

On a vaguely related topic, when people include pronouns in their profiles (she, her; they, them; for example), I think they are saying this: “Make no assumptions about how anyone sees themselves. I am letting you know my pronouns for your convenience and as a reminder not to jump to conclusions.”

What else?

Quatrarius  ·  1780 days ago  ·  link  ·  

i read an article the other day about "the endless process of coming out" and i feel pronoun announcements like that are a way to softly come out as something-not-quite-the-norm, which makes the whole process a little easier on everybody and less awkward

for those in-the-norm i think it's just a way to show solidarity

lil  ·  1781 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Added pronouns to hubski profile.

galen  ·  1779 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Think of it this way: the more people of all stripes introduce themselves with their pronouns, the less queer* people expose themselves to bigotry and hatred simply by virtue of asking others to use their preferred pronouns.

kingmudsy  ·  1781 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    now going by new name and pronouns openly

What are your pronouns? I (try to) default to gender neutral stuff on the internet unless I know better, and if you're carving this identity IRL I'd like you have that option here too :)

Sounds like a good week, overall. I think I'd be feeling tired by the end of it, if I were in your shoes!

Quatrarius  ·  1780 days ago  ·  link  ·  

i would like some "she"s, please, and thanks for asking

kingmudsy  ·  1780 days ago  ·  link  ·  

No worries, thanks for sharing :)

steve  ·  1781 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    it's amazing how much weight is off my back already

I can't even imagine - and am so thrilled for you.

galen  ·  1779 days ago  ·  link  ·  

So goddamn happy for you, Q. At the risk of getting sentimental: what an honor to have been around for so much of your journey, and to watch (or at least read about) you finding your wings. Lots of love :)

Keep us posted on haircut/piercings/therapy!!

Foveaux  ·  1781 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Sounds like you're getting shit done!!

Happy for you :)