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comment by goobster
goobster  ·  2466 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: February 21, 2018

Good call. Because he isn't stupid. He knows he is in a funk. So your offer to help will go through his internal filters and be translated as, "You are a failure, and even I can see this, so you need my help."

And he is not where he can hear your help for what it is: A genuine expression of love and support. He will hear it as an attack.

I know from experience.

This is what ended my first marriage.