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flac  ·  3143 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: April 20, 2016

Folks, if you told me 3 weeks ago where I would be today, I wouldn't believe you for a goddamn second. That my girlfriend would break up with me, and that we would STILL be talking every day. That I would have lost 15 pounds, biked 100 miles, cut down drinking almost altogether, and spent most of every day off a computer. That I would actually be thinking about my feelings, and not hating myself. That I would just be this... good is actually unbelievable to me. I haven't felt this whole and content in years.

Things that would drive me crazy a week ago are not even bothering me. 3 members of my apartment are currently fucking each others' exes without talking about it, and I am fine with that. I turned in my senior capstone yesterday, and I am not even freaking out. My ex told me she wants to go on casual dates with new people, and I was able to be genuinely happy for her.

Sidenote - my ex and I are better friends now than we have been in years. We are brutally honest with each other, and are constantly forcing the other person to grow. Also, we might start making short films together? On the whole, just really happy with everything there.

Unrelated, but I may try an edible today. I haven't gotten high since I started college, and I very plausibly may never get high again, so I figured I may as well do it with people I care about on a beautiful day.

P.S. - I might be moving to Oakland, CA in the fall. Any hubskiers from around the area? I'd love to hear your feelings on it.





arguewithatree  ·  3143 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Meriadoc and I both grew up right outside of Oakland. It's definitely the most interesting city in the area, arguably one of the only cities in the area that hasn't totally homogenized into either suburbs or techie enclaves.

flac  ·  3143 days ago  ·  link  ·  

What particular stuff interests you about it? I have a good friend out there who does work with a local theater group, and he loves the art scene there, which is currently a big draw for me too.

arguewithatree  ·  3143 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Art for sure. Sizable Ethiopian population which means good Ethiopian food. Access to SF if you want it.

That said, the rest of the Bay Area is pretty boring which is why I no longer live there :P

flac  ·  3143 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Fair enough, though probably more interesting than small town CT, which is my current home

arguewithatree  ·  3143 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I mean I'm biased because it's where I grew up so of course I think it's boring haha

snoodog  ·  3143 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Don't eat the whole thing is my advice. Eat 1/2 or 1/4. Also you won't feel anything for an hour or 2 so just wait for it. Recommend doing it before doing something you really enjoy like listening to good music or eating a great dinner. Hopefully you don't have any job searching planned cause it takes about 2-3 weeks to clear.

b555  ·  3141 days ago  ·  link  ·  

That is a pretty positive way to look at the stuff happening around you. You could have easily said no to all that and go down sulking, but you decided not to. Goof stuff, man.

iammyownrushmore  ·  3143 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Oakland here. Pretty great, couldn't imagine living anywhere else for the foreseeable future, but YMMV.

Housing is a bit of a mess right now, prices are high and quality isn't amazing. If you have a car, that helps tremendously.

Hit me up with any questions, and def let me know if/when you get out here.

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