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comment by pyrrhonic
pyrrhonic  ·  3394 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: How and why did you become committed?

    it almost feels like a waste to be tied down in a firm relationship at this stage in life (early 20s).

Don't sweat it. Embrace it. I'm in my late twenties and still not tied down to place, job or significant other. My only regret is not locking down marketable skills for a certain career track earlier on. Which isn't the same thing as having a steady, long-term job. A lot of people around me are now married, having babies and holding down really boring-sounding jobs. I don't begrudge them their choices, I just wonder how satisfied they are with their choices, or rather how satisfied they will be in a decade or so.

My priorities are different from the mainstream, I suppose. I want to see the world now, get out of debt and build up my savings, and (not going to lie) date and sleep with a variety of people before I settle down. I recognize the social pressure to make babies and all that, but I'm going to "do me" first.