I am worried about my younger brother's future, and if my sister's boyfriend is treating her well, or even if they're going to be a good match. Why does he have to be so stubborn, refusing to change his nocturnal lifestyle? It upsets mother to no end, she needs someone to depend on if father and I are not near to help and support her. How can he adapt to university life? Won't he miss classes and do poorly? Gosh, sometimes I wish he would realize that life isn't going to lay the bricks in the road for him anymore.
My sister is much the same way in that she doesn't seem to be taking hold of the wheel of her life. She seems to be adrift at the moment and just letting things happen as they happen. I've tried talking to her a lot about some of the same things you're worried about such as being a reliable source of help for our mother when I'm not there to help her out. I wish my sister were a bit more reliable. Hopefully both our siblings find some solid ground to plant their feet on and push forward from there.
Have you tried talking with them? Sometimes just talking can help so much. The fact that they know that somebody cares for them is powerful. Let them know how you feel.
Thanks. My brother has been sort of sheltered all his life- he's had all the roads paved by him. I think he's at a stage that he doesn't need words, he needs to be given a chance to prove himself capable. I'll write him an email saying how I'll still have his back if he encounters any difficulty in University.
Good on you. Everybody needs to be given the chance to prove themselves.