I don't find any sort of pornographic image/video/material to constitute adultery, quite frankly. Without attempting to give too much information, I have a particular fetish that's very much impossible to recreate in the real world. It is very much the primary source of arousal for me, to the point that any sexual conduct results in the gradual tapering of arousal well before any sort of mutual satisfaction is reached. In my previous relationship, I sat down and talked with my partner about it, and we established that it's a-ok for me to browse around and resort to solo play. Naturally I also did my best to accommodate them as well, but that was out of care for their needs, not my own.

I don't see it as a "tool of the patriarchy" or "inherently exploiting women"; on the other hand, I don't consume mainstream pornography and don't care for videos. I'm not innately connected to the standard practices of production for standard hardcore pornography. Insofar as I'm concerned, porn is a tool for self-exploration: it allows fantasies and wants and kinks that one may not be able to explore with a partner (or even possibly perform at all). It sates the urges and can be used to hone in on what makes one's sex drive tick. But hey, that's just me!

Thanks for sharing. The article was interesting, and I'm honestly curious as to what the 'ski thinks on the matter. Not many places you can get a rational discussion on something like this. :)