In the context of What does 'Should' mean?Sometimes we should trust a situation to play out according to expectations, but we don't for various reasons.
since you asked Should means that everything is in place to work out the way you personally set it up. It was your design, everyone is following through -- you should trust people to do what they said they would do. but you don't for various reasons, so you micromanage and try to influence the outcome. Maybe you don't even consciously know what those reasons are. You don't even realize that you're not trusting them. At least that's what happened to me.... sorry for being a little bit cryptic. new but related topic People often get mad at me for not listening to them. For example, person x (spousal unit) gives me directions to get to the highway after dropping him off. I question the directions. I want to go a different way. He gets personal: "Why don't you just listen to me?" This is a trust issue. I don't listen to him in this case because he is giving me directions for the way he would go, the way he likes to go, the way he's familiar with. I know that going that way, I'd run into a shitload of traffic and it would take me an extra 10 minutes. Going my way, I'd also run into traffic. It doesn't really matter. Driving sucks -- but I'd rather make my own mistakes (and make my own decisions). This makes him mad. Underlying it is his feeling of not being trusted. I'd like him to say, "It's not about me. I'm proud you're trying to figure out a good way for you to get to the highway. Thanks for giving me a lift out of your way." But instead I get, "Why don't you ever listen to me?" Next time he says that, I really have to say, "It's not about your ego or your need to be obeyed and listened to (trusted, respected, adult, the decider, whatever.) I just want to get to the highway in a way that I feel is efficient, even if it isn't. Why does that have to be an issue?" We're still in the pub, right? Am I venting?
Venting is good, it prevents unexpected explosions (Or should anyway). Words like 'should' give me grief. I recently(Few months recently) found out that very little of the time do I 'have to' do something. I want to do something really badly, maybe to advance a goal, but I don't have to do anything. Re: Trust I'm gonna have to re-visit this one sober. I just wrote and promptly deleted a long diatribe about trust, monkeywrenches and similar, but it's neither here nor there. I can say this with confidence. The word 'Trust' sucks because there are a lot of different kinds of relationships/responsibilities that are all amalgamated under that word.
A lot is in that word, conscious, subconscious, even drunk or unconscious. We trust in different ways, and you can specify how you trust people in each relationship. Pick up The Five Dysfunctions of a Team - it's a workplace training book -- but I can see its relevance in any team including romantic teams. Absence of trust is the first dysfunction.