Not a fan of Gawker, but I do want to encourage more introspection from the editors of sites like these. Even if it's only because he was hoisted by his own petard.
Don't believe it for a minute. Brian Lam feeling bad about stealing an iPhone Adrien Chen sorry/not sorry about the Lucidending bullshit Even News of the World printed a retraction every now and then. That doesn't mean they weren't subhuman douchebags. It works like this: 1) Gawker does something horrible 2) That horrible thing ruins lives 3) Gawker faces scathing press 4) Gawker pretends to be introspective so that they can be in front of the story 5) Lather, rinse, repeat Gawker, publicly: http://gawker.com/unpaid-intern-not-a-real-employee-cant-sue-for-sexual-1442902764 Gawker, in sworn affidavits: http://pando.com/2014/02/21/revealed-gawkers-sworn-affidavits-explaining-why-its-greedy-interns-didnt-deserve-to-be-paid/ Never Never Gawker Ever. That shit right there is (5). "Would I ruin a life again? Absolutely. But I'd make sure to write the article about how I felt bad about it ahead of time to get ahead of the news cycle."but I do want to encourage more introspection from the editors of sites like these. Even if it's only because he was hoisted by his own petard.
As if being an unpaid intern wasn't bad enough, now a federal judge in New York has ruled that individuals who don't get paid for their work aren't protected by the New York City Human Rights Law and therefore can't bring a sexual harassment claim against their employers.
None of our internships were paid, and the interns understood that it was an unpaid position. We had one or two paid interns at the launch of the site, but we stopped paying the next interns that arrived in 2009. None of the subsequent interns complained that they were not paid since they understood that it was an unpaid internship from the beginning…
I've been asked many times if I would post Sacco's tweet all over again, and I still don't know how to answer. Would I post the tweet again? Sure. Would I post the tweet knowing it's going to cause an incredibly disproportionate personal disaster for Justine Sacco? No. Would I post the tweet knowing it could happen? Now we're in dicey territory, and I'm thinking of ghosts: If you had a face-to-face sit-down with all of the people you've posted about, how many of THOSE would you do again? We're wading through swamps and thorns, here.
I always get uncomfortable whenever the internet hate machine gets revved up. Even when someone says something truly abhorrent, the response always feels so disproportionate. It's like as soon as someone reveals that they aren't perfect, that they have some moral failing, they deserve to be have all sorts of abuse thrown at them. When I was younger, I made some homophobic jokes at work, possibly in front of a coworker who was, I found out years later, gay. I was trying to be funny, and if anyone had told me that, no, they were hurtful, I would have been horrified. All I wanted to do was make people laugh, and I didn't have the perspective to realize that it wouldn't necessarily be interpreted the way I'd intended it. If someone had called me out on it then and there, would I have apologized? I don't know. I hope so. But if everyone piled on me, called me an awful person, got me fired, and generally tried to hurt me in whatever legal way they could, I don't know that I'd have learned anything. I'd be out of a job and miserable - who would I blame, myself, or them? I've grown up since then, and I've learned. When I see an internet mob going after a person for holding an unpopular opinion, or making an ignorant comment for the sake of humour, I often end up with more sympathy for the target of their anger. They're still people, no matter what things they've said or what they say they believe. We've all been ignorant, and we've all learned. That's not to say we shouldn't call out people for saying things they shouldn't, but rage won't make them want to change.
Having been in front of an Internet hate mob or two, the mechanism is pretty simple but devilishly cumulative. YOU are a private citizen that feels disempowered. Perhaps you graduated college and can't find work. Perhaps your parents grounded you for being late when it totally wasn't your fault. Perhaps your boss didn't recognize all the work you put into that report. Hell, perhaps you were four over par yesterday. I am a private citizen that, somehow, is a public citizen in your mind. I could be a CEO you read about on Gawker, I could be a moderator on Reddit, I could be someone 4chan mistakenly believes tortures animals. The important part is that we're equals, but because we don't intrinsically understand The Internet you think we're not. Your response is to pillory me. You do this the same way you shout at traffic through your windshield - from your perspective, there is no difference between the front seat of your Honda and the office chair in your cubicle. After all, the internet is an echo chamber of incoherent rage; what's one more howl in the woods? This is how wolf packs form - one dog barks and the whole neighborhood choruses. So I don't know you, you don't know me, and inside 6 hours I've got 900 death threats for being rude in the modmail. It's funny. My internet profile is pretty well sanitized. Call it basic OPSEC: I moderate a default subreddit and have said controversial things on large forums. Doxing is a reality. Yesterday I saw a job posting on a subreddit and decided to investigate who was offering it. Despite the throwaway I had the twitters, facebooks, blog posts and google plus profiles of every single person involved in the project within five minutes. And those are guys on the Internet - when a limo driver creamed me across four lanes of the 405 two months ago I looked his ass up online. Dude doesn't exist. His interaction with the Internet is a test pattern. Just the basic stuff that you find when someone doesn't know about Spokeo and its ilk. The majority of people on the Internet don't understand the Internet. They think they're shouting through their car windshield. They don't understand that they're breaking through the bedroom window and inviting everyone for miles around to do the same. I don't know what effect that's having on society but it isn't good, I reckon.
There is no such thing as "just trying to be funny", and it is not our job to coddle you while you figure that out. Give me a fucking break with that pity party nonsense. We're being murdered daily and you're worried about shit like this.But if everyone piled on me, called me an awful person, got me fired, and generally tried to hurt me in whatever legal way they could, I don't know that I'd have learned anything. I'd be out of a job and miserable - who would I blame, myself, or them?
You. See the thing is this doesn't actually happen. You know what does happen, though, is that people in minority groups like this are assaulted and harassed constantly every day because someone thinks these jokes are funny but totally aren't racist/sexist guys, tells their friends (some of which might not actually have such "pure" intentions), makes the idea of othering and mockery on arbitrary criteria acceptable for the sake of a cheap laugh.
Woah woah woah, deep cleansing breaths, friend. you've misinterpreted the quote you've used. When he says He's saying, in his theoretical situation "I just got fired for saying x in a context where i hoped to please people. This confused me, and as a result instead of having the desired reaction of regret and positive change, I would be radicalized into becoming angry and whatever subconscious bigotry i did have would become conscious and more fervent as I blamed x minority for my problems." The worrying part about this interaction is that you've just done exactly what he was positing. Not everyone who makes a racist joke is exclusively a racist bigot. There are all sorts of things that people say and do because of the innate human desire to be accepted by the group. This doesn't make these actions okay, but it does make explaining to that person why that action is not okay a reasonable first step. If there is evidence of systematic bigotry by that person, then that's a different story, but you've got to see that pattern of behaviour before you can make that judgement. Like, when someone calls me "a transgendered", or "born a x", it's like, well, that's not strictly accurate, and you take an opportunity to educate in a neutral or positive setting. Or if someone says "I have a tranny friend", it's like, "i don't have a problem with that term, but you gotta know that there are a lot of people who have some serious issues with that term and you gotta be careful with a loaded gun like that in the future". It's always best, when faced with a morally ambiguous comment, to first assume the best intentions of people, not just on the internet, but in real life as well. For one, not everything comes across properly in text without context and for two sometimes have legitimately no idea that something is offensive (this is far more common than you'd believe). Getting angry on the internet is even more useless than it is in real life. real social change is the kind of work that requires the channelling of frustration and anger, and the tempering of expectations with time. You can spend your life angry and vitriolic, or you can put that energy into affecting useful positive change in your environment.I'd be out of a job and miserable - who would I blame, myself, or them?
Thanks. As I recently said to someone, I'm not perfect, but I try to be better. I've found that my life, online and offline, has been made easier by attempting to understand people and their reasons. It turns out, people usually have reasons, consciously or (more often) not, for doing the things they do. I'm a proud member of generation "why".
>He's saying, in his theoretical situation "I just got fired for saying x in a context where i hoped to please people. This confused me, and as a result instead of having the desired reaction of regret and positive change, I would be radicalized into becoming angry and whatever subconscious bigotry i did have would become conscious and more fervent as I blamed x minority for my problems." Thank you. That's exactly what I was trying to say. No one has an obligation to educate anyone else, and anger is absolutely a justifiable response, but I think one of those is going to be more effective at changing attitudes (of course, they both work).
Intent doesn't really... matter, is my point. You are still furthering the idea that hey, its ok to make fun of these people, which can fuel others' bigorty inadvertently, and that's not okay. I don't care how well you mean. I'm not saying you're a racist bigot or sexist or whatever for making a rude joke. You're not really helping, either, however, and the onus is not on me to be able to discern between your ignorance and malice so your feelings don't get hurt. To put that above the well-being and lives of legitimately oppressed groups is the worrying part. I don't care how mean those darn SJW types are. e. but yeah i'll take a chill pill and peace right out like i had been. no idea why i decided to post again, no one likes what i got to say
She's saying there's no shortage of excuses to be mad at what people do accidentally and that when you do, all you're doing is increasing the general level of hatred. If you actually want things to change, you have to be conscious of intent. A person who unthinkingly makes a racist joke is going to be doubly vigilant to never make another racist joke. A person who knowingly, willingly makes a racist joke needs to know it's not okay to do that around you. Both people will have their behavior shaped but the approach taken must be directly opposite in either case.Intent doesn't really... matter, is my point. You are still furthering the idea that hey, its ok to make fun of these people, which can fuel others' bigorty inadvertently, and that's not okay. I don't care how well you mean.
Well, i guess the question comes down to whether or not you feel like human interaction is designed to increase understanding, or to serve you and your personal needs. If I pull someone aside and say "hey, they joke you made is not okay for x reason", then I'm not furthering the idea that these jokes are okay. And that's the situation that both I, and the person you were originally replying to, are describing as an alternative to getting mad and making a scene about it. Even calmly bringing it up at the time, in front of others, is fine as long as you are not demonizing, or talking down to the person. Just make it clear that it's not cool. ^ you know, KB summarized this much better than I did, so just read his comment in the stead of this section. I would argue that, as a human being interacting with other human beings, that that IS your job - to discern meaning in conversation. The point of language is to be understood, and the point of conversation is to ensure proper understanding between others as we share ideas and experiences. To argue that it is not your "job", or that the "onus is not on you" is just shifting the blame. That's like a carpentry teacher saying "well it's not MY problem that you don't understand how to build cabinets". No, the onus is on both people, at an academic level. The teacher must do all they can to be understood, and the student must be willing to work with the teacher until they understand. Does this occur as often as it should? no, because some teachers don't care enough, some students don't care enough, and sometimes neither have the time because of standardized testing. However, you are emotionally invested, and you have the ability to MAKE time. if a student is willing, then there's nothing you can't teach them - and most students are willing.the onus is not on me to be able to discern between that and malice
The unfortunate complicated truth, is that there is. One person's ignorance is another person's violent repression. Here, I see someone confessing for past transgressions, and contemplating how to best bring people to understanding. It would be easy if your genuine right to be upset measured even with the motive of his insult, but it's not always the case. How you move people from harmful ignorance to real understanding is worth worrying about IMHO.There is no such thing as "just trying to be funny"
I thought I was reading an apology letter from one ignorant... or rather, from one unthinking person-in-the-public-sphere-who-is-very-sorry to another unthinking person-in-the-public sphere-who-is-very-sorry, and I was sort of touched because it reminded me of that one time in middle school when I thought it would be sooooo funny to be ironic about Columbine (and got rightfully suspended for it). But after clicking the link to Max Read's article I realized that this is actually an article about Gamergate. This is a fake apology for making an ironic tweet with the foregone conclusion that anyone that participates in Gamergate is a bad person, and leaves no room for talking about the original subject matter at all. I believe this is a leaf node in a directed graph of self-legitimizing Gawker articles ultimately designed to rebrand the "Zoe Quinn Five Guys" incident as "Gamergate" and shift the focus off of Zoe Quinn and her colleagues and onto "gamers", whoever the hell they are. And that's fine by me, Gawker, Zoe, Sam, Max, Anita, Phil Fish and the rest of them should be allowed to say anything they like. So if you'll indulge my off-topic wanderings, I want to talk about the original subject matter, because it still bothers me after all these months: why did moderators across a bunch of sites actively participate in censoring the Five Guys story in its early days? Do Zoe and Gawker have a bunch of ties to these moderators? Should I be worried about a secret, incestuous network of journalists and moderators that no longer just post stories in their favor, but actively suppress stories that cast them in a negative light? Who curates the conversations I participate in? Sam Biddle and his colleagues at Gawker do not have my sympathy. I saw the banning and post deletion as it happened, and I'm mad about it. Maybe he should apologize for that instead.