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user-inactivated  ·  3700 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Attachment Styles and Close Relationships (links to quiz)

Anxious Preoccupied, though the graph indicates mostly just preoccupied and mildly anxious. I know from being inside my head how anxious I am, and I went with "Neither nor" answers most of the time since, having only been out since January and since I'm living in Ultra Red and am already infatuated with someone, haven't been in an actual relationship. Taking three hours to fall asleep = high anxiety.

    Combining your anxiety and avoidance scores, you fall into the preoccupied region of the space. Previous research on attachment styles indicates that preoccupied people tend to have highly conflictual relationships. Although they are comfortable expressing their emotions, preoccupied individuals often experience a lot of negative emotions, which can often interfere with their relationships.




coffeesp00ns  ·  3700 days ago  ·  link  ·  

the problem with infatuation is that that person and that relationship is almost guaranteed to disappoint you because it will not live up to the expectations you have.

user-inactivated  ·  3700 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'd say the problem with this particular infatuation is the "straight" part.

coffeesp00ns  ·  3700 days ago  ·  link  ·  

also problematic.

ironpotato  ·  3700 days ago  ·  link  ·  

We are just about right next to each other, only I'm on the fearful-avoidant side. Which doesn't sound quite right.