For the first time, I saw why some people said suffering is good for you and can make you grow. I was in a lot of pain and had a lot insights about myself that wouldnt occur to my normal self. Like how bad I actually am compared to what I think about myself.
And Im seriously doubting if I should ever be in relationships. Like Einstein said, why complicate things when simple things are possible, why be in them when people can be close to other people and be happy without such relationship things.
Ironman - it is so important what you are saying here. When we take responsibility for our part, we are able to grow into better people. When we just blame, we lose that chance. I hope you find what works best for you.Like how bad I actually am compared to what I think about myself.
That is particularly hard to see, because in any story, we want to cast ourselves as the hero in some way. And Im seriously doubting if I should ever be in relationships.
Good mutually happy relationships can require a lot of work and practice. Many people find them worth the work.