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_refugee_  ·  3768 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Who are you, Hubski?

I would talk to Charlotte and make sure she still thinks you are dating.





ButterflyEffect  ·  3768 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I think asking her an anonymous question on Tumblr is a better route.

havires  ·  3767 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Is this actually done in relationships? I mean is this how people are settling their issues and working out their problems now? Jesus I don't want to live on this planet any more.

_refugee_  ·  3768 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I don't spend 75% of my reddit time in relationship advice for nothing.

Not gonna lie, my freshman year of high school I had a "boyfriend" and at one point put a friend up to asking him if he liked me. Sigh.

user-inactivated  ·  3768 days ago  ·  link  ·  

This wasn't a normal thing to do in 9th grade?

....shit.

galen  ·  3768 days ago  ·  link  ·  

It's OK eightbit, we've all done it.

galen  ·  3768 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Seriously considered badging.

galen  ·  3768 days ago  ·  link  ·  

You mean Emily?

_refugee_  ·  3768 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'm sorry, yes, that's absolutely what I mean.

When she said "I don't think there's much to tell," and then you stopped hanging out so much, it sounds like she politely (or not-very-communicatively) was telling you she didn't want to see you any more.

"Secrets, secrets are no fun. Secrets, secrets hurt someone." - The Office

Secret relationships aren't a good idea and I think it is a red flag if one person is actively encouraging the relationship to stay secret.

galen  ·  3768 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Yeah, I'm gonna talk to her. I need to just ask a.) if we're still together, and b.) if she'd be OK telling people about us, and I think maybe if the answer to either of those questions is no, by the end of the conversation it'll be over.

_refugee_  ·  3768 days ago  ·  link  ·  

This sounds reasonable, and I wish you luck.

galen  ·  3768 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Thanks, ref. Now I just have to figure out how to get some time alone with her.

galen  ·  3768 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I ended up just calling her a couple minutes ago. You were right, that was her breaking up with me. Fuck

nowaypablo feel like telling your relationship story to take my mind off mine? You don't have to, I'm just kind of intrigued

E: Why is all my music about love

_refugee_  ·  3767 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Sorry about that dude. Yes let's bother nowaypablo and make him tell his stories. Mine are all old and told.

Have you listened to CHVRCHES? They're pretty non-love-friendly I think.

How about some of this