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user-inactivated  ·  3786 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: "you are muted here"

    and have angered my friends and made them uncomfortable, I no longer will tolerate it.

And therein lies the real danger of the mute feature. It's not really about whether or not I've made constructive suggestions to this site, it's about whether or not your friends find my comments uncomfortable.

And this should be the litmus test for whether or not I even get to join in on a conversation.

Here, let me be an asshole now.

Folks like you are the reason atrocities happen. The fundamental lack of fairness to people that are different than yourself.

now I'm truly terrible, but, say what you will, I have made many suggestions for changes that would make this site more in-line with what I expect from it.

As you learned when you read through my history, that is definitely not an accusation that can be leveled at me unless you're ignorant.





user-inactivated  ·  3786 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    And this should be the litmus test for whether or not I even get to join in on a conversation.

Yes it is. That's how communities work. I've never seen you before this thread, but from the way TNG, Meriadoc and 8bit react to you, I'm reasonably sure you're an asshole. I'm not going to mute you, because if our paths haven't crossed so far they probably won't again, but I'm not interested in engaging with you either.

user-inactivated  ·  3786 days ago  ·  link  ·  

That's not how online communities work.

    but from the way TNG, Meriadoc and 8bit react to you, I'm reasonably sure you're an asshole.

I'm a terrible person, you can tell because 3 people disliked my opinion. You should definitely continue making decisions in that manner, I'm sure it'll treat you well.

_refugee_  ·  3785 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Three people that bfv knows, trusts, and has interacted with over a great deal of time. You know, in meatspace, I think they call them "friends." If three of your friends who you trusted told you someone was a dick, would you assume they were probably a dick? You wouldn't avoid them, but you wouldn't seek them out and maybe you would approach them with caution?

If you say no, then why are you friends with people whose opinions you don't trust?

user-inactivated  ·  3785 days ago  ·  link  ·  

It's an online community on a public forum for content aggregation.

Perhaps the problem is that some of you are having difficulty emotionally keeping your distance so instead you feel that you should have the right to form cliques and try as hard as you can to ruin someone elses experience of the site.

I can't stop you from being so petty, but I can have a low opinion of you for your willingness to do so.

arguewithatree  ·  3785 days ago  ·  link  ·  

hey guess what...the internet doesn't operate in a vacuum!!! behind these usernames are real live people!!! with real live feelings!!! who crave real live interactions!!! and you're disrupting that. you're the kid in the sandbox who throws sand in everyone's eyes and wonders why no one wants to hang out with you.

you think badly of our community.

so leave.

user-inactivated  ·  3785 days ago  ·  link  ·  

it seems strange that the ones doing the muting don't think about the "real live feelings" of the ones they're muting.

user-inactivated  ·  3786 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    Here, let me be an asshole now.

Oh shit, those other moments weren't you being an asshole, woops, wish I had known that.

user-inactivated  ·  3786 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Those other moments were me expressing an opinion the other person disliked.

user-inactivated  ·  3786 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Oh god, I just can't anymore.

Yes mrieland, your opinion is the reason people dislike interacting with you.

God, you're so lucky I find you entertaining. St this point.

user-inactivated  ·  3786 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'll end the conversation since you can't seem to.

Also, it's mreiland, not mrieland. It's german so it often gets misprounced as mrieland, but it's actually spelled mreiland :)