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user-inactivated  ·  3823 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: When Women Pursue Sex Even Men Don't Get It

I think it's great now, but when I was younger (15-16) and still relatively indoctrinated by society (sorry) I was thoroughly turned off by a couple of girls who hit on me aggressively. So I can partially sympathize. But normal adult males shouldn't feel that way.

EDIT: their data is going to depend on what part of the country they survey and a whole host of other things; I'm too lazy to reread and see if they controlled for that.





humanodon  ·  3821 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I dunno . . . I've been hit on very aggressively by men and women and it made me feel kind of the same way. A creep is a creep and I'm not fine with just anyone grabbing/rubbing my junk.

I have also been aggressively hit on by girls I've been interested in, but turned off by the way it's been done. I don't dig the whole "acting sexy" thing sometimes I guess. When I think about it, maybe in the past it's had something to do with a girl acting the way she thought men in general should find appealing that turned me off.

For me (and I suspect others) reacting poorly to aggressive sexuality isn't solely a function of "indoctrination". Mostly I am down for casual sex but I have to be in the right frame of mind for it. "I'll bring the wine and you bring the glasses" kind of thing. I also get a bit nervous when people I don't want to be around all the time know how to get to where I sleep.