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comment by _refugee_
_refugee_  ·  3838 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Get Therapy

Exactly on point. It took me a while to figure that out and it took me a longer time to find a therapist who really worked for me and who I really, really loved.

Once I went to a therapist (just to check her out) who was all about affirmations. I am not all about affirmations. I also didn't feel that just telling myself how awesome I was was going to help me get to the bottom of my issues. She didn't seem like a bad person, but it wasn't the type of therapy I wanted or thought I needed.

As with most things in life it can be difficult to know what you want until you encounter what you don't want in therapy.

I think it's really important to find someone you click with. I actually really enjoyed therapy because I'd known I'd had certain issues for a long time and I was able to get more to the bottom of them. And I knew I was doing it and getting better. But it also took me years to get to that point.