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user-inactivated  ·  3839 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Get Therapy

    It might just be my attitude (Probably is, so take this with a few grains of salt) but a lot of the time when I'm talking to my counselor, we come to the point that I just care too much about stuff that is important/tragic, but has no direct effect on my life. Example

    And a lot of his advice for dealing with these things amounts to 'Just don't think about it.'

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That's terrible. Empathy and acknowledgement make a difference. 'Thinking about it' is 90 percent of the reason I post anything on hubski. I want people who follow me to think about things. My facebook wall looks like hubski. My conversations sound like hubski. My friends assuredly get tired of it -- but gradually their behavior starts to change. It makes a difference.

If you go into therapy (which I would never do; I admit to a bias) with the personal philosophy that awareness of the human condition matters and are told instead to shut yourself off ... walk out. Walk out without paying a dime.





OftenBen  ·  3839 days ago  ·  link  ·  

The beautiful thing about it is that I don't pay him a dime, and I won't until I graduate. (Yay for student resource centers I guess). At the moment I go because he has helped me with mindfulness stuff that I had an interest in before and those skills makes my day to say easier. He believes in... I guess practical empathy would be a good term. He gives heavily to charity, volunteers regularly for mental health care for those who can't afford it, and in general gives a lot of aid to those who he can reach directly, personally.

I have very few friends who can speak comfortably about controversial subjects and not get pissed. I treasure those few.