Isn't the she you're referring to actually a he? Or am I confused? Also, I get what the author is trying to say but some parts of this came off as condescending and talking down to the reader. Such as every single sentence where this appears: Other instances of feeling like I'm being talked down to: I've seen things like that search before and it's always interesting to see what kinks are being searched....you hate us...
It's fine, not all emotions have to be based on facts. We're human beings, after all. I just wanted to make sure you knew it couldn't be factual.
... But listen. The facts? You're going to have a hard time with them.
... Okay, let's just skip that part, I already went over it, and I don't want to tire you out by repeating myself.
... and so many more. Overall I didn't enjoy the tone of this article, not that any of these articles are great in that aspect.
I hear what you're saying, but I think that the writer was correct to bring up the fact that a lot of people might not fully understand their own feelings about porn or by extension, sex work in general. There are a lot of non-profits out there that collect data on sex workers of all kinds, but I think it's easy to accept that data as "true" even when we don't question why the data was collected, or the mission behind those non-profits. Sex is complicated stuff and it's not easy to understand why someone might want to profit from their own sexuality from an outsider's perspective. Yes, some people are coerced into sex work, or tricked into starring in porn but to me, that's a very compelling reason for sex work to be treated like other professions so that people who work in sex industries can be sure to receive legal and social protections from predatory agents seeking to exploit people. Of course, that's easier said than done.
Sorry I was reading two articles and the Duke girl article. I think I was confused. I didn't find the tone overall that condescending because I read it more as a conversation with an imaginary audience rather than a conversation with me. The writing style irked me a bit and I wish there was more focus on the emotions and struggles rather than these short sentences / statements / questions and jumpy transitions.