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veen  ·  3945 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: On Seeing the 100% Perfect Girl One Beautiful April Morning, by Haruki Murakami

    Partner In Crime is a good way of putting it. I have plenty of guy friends who fit that description, but for friends I'm not always certain it's a good thing. For example, I have a good friend like that and sometimes we'd just feed off each other until we'd created a perfect storm of What Not To Do. Live and learn.

Partner in Crime - I'm so gonna steal that one to describe relationships.

The best friends I have, have that magic combination of serious, thought-provoking discussions and sarcastic, silly humour. I'm lucky to have multiple people like that in my friend groups, but not many of them are female. Partner in crime sounds like the best kind of relationship, really: working together to achieve goals, but knowing each other well enough to help the other out.





_refugee_  ·  3944 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Ha, thanks. It is a good encapsulation of what I want. You sum up the essense well. I want someone who is in on my crazy plans, but as you add in - "knowing each other well enough to help the other out" - someone I can depend upon if things go wrong (as we cavort about breaking the law a la Bonnie and Clyde). Someone who is worthy of my trust in these potentially-madcap adventures.

In a perfect world my perfect partner in crime would be someone who would help me win the prisoner's dilemma. But that requires me to trust them as much as they trust me, and that's where I think I would run into problems first.

Edit: But really. What's two years in prison?

(Being facetious!)

b_b  ·  3944 days ago  ·  link  ·  

The prisoners' dilemma is thre whole key to life. Lots of fucked up things in the world can be understood on that principle. Find someone with whom you can beat the game, and I think life would be easy.

_refugee_  ·  3916 days ago  ·  link  ·  

(I am clearing out my old notifications) I assume you saw & enjoyed the recent post about how prisoners are more likely to work together in the prisoner's dilemma?