I'm not sure how it looks from the outside, but I can say that I've dated quite a few girls who didn't fall into the "ideal female" category in the magazine of my own fantasies. Come to think about it, I've even dated girls that have shattered fantasies for me. I used to think that dating a girl who couldn't keep her hands off me would be great . . . and it was, for a surprisingly short time. After that, it got to be kind of a pain. Partner In Crime is a good way of putting it. I have plenty of guy friends who fit that description, but for friends I'm not always certain it's a good thing. For example, I have a good friend like that and sometimes we'd just feed off each other until we'd created a perfect storm of What Not To Do. Live and learn.It's okay to be picky. Just don't let your pickiness become "artificial structures devised not beacuse you have a reason for them, but because you are afraid of dating, and so use fake "standards" in order to ensure everyone who approaches you is immediately ineligible."
Partner in Crime - I'm so gonna steal that one to describe relationships. The best friends I have, have that magic combination of serious, thought-provoking discussions and sarcastic, silly humour. I'm lucky to have multiple people like that in my friend groups, but not many of them are female. Partner in crime sounds like the best kind of relationship, really: working together to achieve goals, but knowing each other well enough to help the other out.Partner In Crime is a good way of putting it. I have plenty of guy friends who fit that description, but for friends I'm not always certain it's a good thing. For example, I have a good friend like that and sometimes we'd just feed off each other until we'd created a perfect storm of What Not To Do. Live and learn.
Ha, thanks. It is a good encapsulation of what I want. You sum up the essense well. I want someone who is in on my crazy plans, but as you add in - "knowing each other well enough to help the other out" - someone I can depend upon if things go wrong (as we cavort about breaking the law a la Bonnie and Clyde). Someone who is worthy of my trust in these potentially-madcap adventures. In a perfect world my perfect partner in crime would be someone who would help me win the prisoner's dilemma. But that requires me to trust them as much as they trust me, and that's where I think I would run into problems first. Edit: But really. What's two years in prison? (Being facetious!)