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comment by Meriadoc
Meriadoc  ·  4003 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Is saying "thank you" to childless women sympathetic or patronizing?

I think the entirety of the thanking someone you don't know for a basic life choice is incredibly patronizing and presumptuous, and makes you look incredibly self-serving. I've never known a war veteran who has appreciated when you 'thank them for their service'. It's vapid and empty, and it only serves to show your own opinions, or every less. It's for the person saying it, not as an actual extension of appreciation.





ms626  ·  4003 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I started to read it as the author "congratulating" me for realizing I could never hack it as a parent.

Why is reproducing seen as a "given?" It's 2013, shouldn't we have moved slightly beyond biological imperatives at this point?

I once read a study that said art criticism is more a reflection of the viewer than the artist. Perhaps congratulations fall into the same category.