I’ll be running a diversity, equity, and inclusion podcast, magazine, and quarterly conference for a large consulting firm :)

I’m with Peer Support, those two little offices across from People Ops and Cart Repair. Part conflict resolution, part psychological first-aid, part traffic control, directing people to Rangers, Zendo, etc.

Didn’t have to handle much, but the people involved were amazing! I’d definitely do it again.

Aw shit, if I'd known you were there, I would have passed along my unused shower tickets (not even sure if the Wet Spot is still functional)!

I hope the ride back is quick!

Today was my first day of my new corporate job. There were no fires to put out, no sudden changes without clear recourse, and all in all, everything unfolded according to plan, which I am not used to. I think I'm going to like it here and it feels like a lot of hard work I've put in over the years is finally paying off. I think it will take some adjusting, but I'm really looking forward to it!

I'll see if I can't find a photo of it, but this year at the temple, there was a letter from a longtime Burner who was essentially breaking up with Burning Man. He'd included every ticket, vehicle pass, book, and map he'd received starting from I think, 2003. Basically, the letter said that he'd got as much out of BRC as he needed, and that the Sparkle Ponies and other elements introduced over the years had created an experience that he didn't recognize, or want to be part of any longer.

It was sad, but got me reflecting on why I go. Sure, I wish I'd seen what it was like before social media, before electronic music was the norm, and before every night on playa was lit up as brightly as Burn night, but it's still an amazing beast to behold. For me, it's still about intention, change, and centering humanity, but what do I know?

Anyway, our camp fared much better than some, especially those that needed to be evacuated and pressed into other camps. We had a communal dome which kept us all dry, equipped with a DJ booth, commercial grade sound system, and full bar. We also had great DJs and a fantastic honkytonk musician who kept our spirits high with unbelievably good music. And of course, since the service our camp provided was food, we ate well! Last year I lost about 10 lbs. over the course of the Burn, but this year I only lost 1.5 lbs.

This was my first year volunteering with the org as a Peer Support Counselor and honestly, I think I'd do it again. I still love the parties and the music, but the community aspect of Burning Man has added such phenomenal dimension to the experience that I'm sure I'll end up at BRC again in the future!

SAME! Hey, if you might be open for it, I'd love to have a buddy in a similar situation as I navigate my new financial reality as a means of processing and checking myself. No pressure, of course!

Anyone going this year? I'll be at Camp Delicioso (B & 2:15) as of later today and volunteering at Peer Support (in the "business park") from tomorrow until Tuesday. Feel free to come say hi!

Hey hubcaps, it's been a while! Just landed a job where I'll be earning 2.5x what I used to make (but I laid myself off in May), which is great but I do expect some culture shock as this will be the very first corporate role I've held. Also, my partner is now wondering what it would be like if we lived in NYC, which would probably be cool as we have lots of friends and family there, but like, even though I just got a big pay bump, I'll basically be back to my old buying power if/when we move, but them's the breaks. Honestly, after living on the West Coast for a bit I really miss the walkability of East Coast cities. Personally, I think my partner also wants to live in a place where she can wear her collection of vintage fur coats she's been amassing FOR NO REASON, but whatever.

A guy from back home got really into making doors and today he makes a living on instagram/renting out the tiny homes and cabins he builds (featuring cool doors!). Anyway, my friends from back home that got into woodworking when we were kids are all still at it and having a blast doing it. Give it a whirl, no need to go any deeper than it being fun!

I dig it

So, I couldn't believe that you'd add a M.A.S.K. video that wasn't the theme song, so of course I had to go listen to the theme song, which of course auto-played into a cover where the original singer drops in to comment.

Anyway, I don't want to be cool enough for GoBots at this point in life. Like, did they even have Orson Welles playing Unicron, the Lord of Chaos, the Chaos Bringer, the Planet Eater? Maybe, maybe not.

From the Transformers Wiki:

George Orson Welles (May 6, 1915 – October 10, 1985), actor and director, was born in Kenosha, Wisconsin and lived a fairly eventful life, in case you hadn't heard. For starters, in 1938 he convinced a bunch of rubes that Martians were invading the Earth with his The War of the Worlds radio show. On screen, Welles had a highly memorable role in The Muppet Movie, where he gave Kermit the Frog his big break in Hollywood. Oh yeah, he also made some movie about some guy who wants a sled (spoiler alert).

It wasn't until 1985 that Mr. Welles finally fulfilled his true destiny by playing the planet-gobbling world Unicron, although, sadly, Mr. Welles died before the movie was released in 1986.

"You know what I did this morning? I played the voice of a toy. Some terrible robot toys from Japan that changed from one thing to another. The Japanese have funded a full-length animated cartoon about the doings of these toys, which is all bad outer-space stuff. I play a planet. I menace somebody called Something-or-other. Then I'm destroyed. My plan to destroy Whoever-it-is is thwarted and I tear myself apart on the screen."

—Orson Welles, on his final film performance.

"The irony of [Welles] playing a planet-sized eating machine wasn't lost on anyone."

—Michael McConnohie

Great seeing you too!

Aw man, I just had to search my hard drive for that one. I really like what you did with it! I really do have to get back into writing. What a great way to be reminded! Thanks for that and for writing the song!

I think that's so true of so many things. In the US context, what you're talking about also applies to university; how can we expect literal children to choose for themselves the path that will lead them to meaning and financial independence, when they don't have the life experience to really know what they need or want?

In terms of your move to Norway, I'm not very surprised to hear that your experience is so different. Both the UK and the US tend to have very large organizations with a great deal of what I would term, "power distance". For example, here in many organizations (large or small) the people at the top, never meet the people at the bottom, or even in the middle. Different levels tend not to interact with one another much, except through very established channels and contexts.

Here's a real shocker: these kinds of organizations tend to have less potential for upward mobility and as organizations tend to reflect the communities and populations that they're embedded in, they also tend to reflect societal dynamics. In societies with very little social mobility (like the US) we see less internal promotion and more bringing in upper level people from the outside. Further, "chain of command" type org structures tend to have notably higher rates in turnover, which means that they spend a shitload on hiring and trying to establish pipelines to draw on talent. If an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of the cure, for whatever reasons, the customer keeps demanding the cure and wondering why they can't cut costs.

It's not healthy.

Unfortunately, at the individual level there are no boilerplate solutions (or at the team/unit/org level). Generally speaking, businesses who have high employee turnover spend shitloads on recruiting and training to replace, not to mention time lost and opportunity costs, the blow to morale, etc.

Rationally speaking, these losses would be expected to curb behaviors that result in turnover, but they tend not to, at least not in the US. The work culture here is so focused on "efficiency" and minimizing costs that it tends to create tunnel vision, but since most other successful businesses also have tunnel vision, people tend not to see it as a problem.

Essentially, if you are in a conflict averse work environment, which is most organizations, then being heard is not as in the cards as one might hope. Part of the issue on that front is that people don't have the resilience or training to engage in conflict productively. That said, when conflict is engaged in productively, it's almost never recognized as conflict at all.

People often voice the need for greater training in conflict management but rarely engage in it, at least in part because many people are uncomfortable with it, which makes practice tough. Lack of practice leads to a lack of skill and—oh look! Here we are, back at square 1.

Where this knowledge can be useful for the lay-person, is in determining whether or not an organization might be a good fit to work in. To answer your question explicitly, you can't make yourself be heard unless the other party is willing to listen. When that occurs at work, it kind of depends on what you value.

Ah, this is something I may be able to support on. Then again, I do have a bias as my degree is in conflict resolution and in particular, workplace conflict. One of my areas of interest is actually organizational silence and it’s related phenomena, gossip.

Eng, to my eye what you describe fits well with what I would frame as “latent conflict”, likely due to essentially, the psychological defense mechanisms of leadership. If we’re thinking about flows of communication, in organizations, these flows tend to be oriented horizontally (among peers) and vertically (between ranks/levels).

The tendency of leadership is that they outwardly want say, an open door policy, but are also keenly aware that an open door means that anyone can come in. Thus, vertical conflict management systems tend to be implemented by those at the top to get information from those below.

Simple, right?

Here’s another simple thing; the human mind strives to maintain a positive self-image, which results in attempts to explain or to justify actions after the fact. In a nutshell, the people at the top want to believe that they are good people (however they define that). Negative feedback threatens that positive self-image and so to protect itself, the mind will subconsciously be motivated to defend.

In most cases, this means that the people at the top say they want feedback, but are actively (though often subconsciously) avoiding it. How? By adding layers, and by controlling the timeline for resolution or management.

Now, the people who aren’t at the top quickly learn this. When people aren’t listened to, they stop talking. In organizations, when legitimate channels of grievance aren’t listened to, people stop using them.

Cue gossip. Not only does this create in-group bonding, it can quickly evolve into a way of those without titles to get things done. Most organizations have informal leaders. Next time you’re in a meeting, pay attention to who is being listened to and who isn’t; the titles might not match up with those who are being listened to.

Now, I’ll freely admit that I hate HR and that this is a bias of mine, but as a consultant, I feel like it’s important ( in the American context anyway) to understand that while there are good HR people out there, by and large, HR exists as the organization’s condom: to keep the organization from getting sued.

I bring this up because you mention that they are listening to you. It may be worth your while to get a clear picture of why. In the event that you may be thinking of leaving, it may be some small comfort for you to know that the real costs of employee turnover are often 1/2 or a full year’s salary to replace and then train the new person, not to mention productivity and opportunity costs.

Anyway, one reason why you might find the situation an analog, is because racism is a form of oppression, and many work practices are forms of oppression too. I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through that, but if you’d like to discuss it more, or if I can send useful materials your way, let me know, because that sounds like it sucks balls.

Thank you! By the way, I watched Ink Masters. I am so curious about whether the field attracts shitty people, or if that's due to selection bias for the sake of TV. Also, who the fuck is signing up to be a canvas on these shows?

If there's some kind of pipeline, then I'm interested. So many social experiments, so little time.

Happy New Year! I got a raise today! It’s not a huge raise, but it’s nothing to sniff at either.

Maybe the bump in income will help me to weather whatever shit storm is brewing.

2020 was an umpty year. I dig this list though!

Oh word, I'll check that out!

What is ink master? AM I MISSING OUT ON SOMETHING?

I am! I have to say, that I had no idea how much low-level pain I'd been carrying around FOR YEARS until that damn tooth came out.

I'm really glad to hear that you get to keep your tooth AND get healthy! In this world we're in, that tired old line of "health is wealth" is suddenly and markedly, relevant once again.

I'm also glad to hear that your improved situation has been helpful in managing things with your wife. With that background discomfort and pain, I was always primed for conflict, I know vulnerability is fashionable these days, but there's nothing like letting the guard or the walls down to facilitate getting back on the same page.

I'd encourage you to try to find ways of creating some kind of plans/goals/structure to sustain the music, your overall health, and your relationships as I know that when I (or my clients) don't make such plans, things can slide back to where they were (more or less) and that sense of backsliding can be as demoralizing as realizing you've reached that low, in the first place.

Anyway, glad that things are looking up!

Yo, I had a similar thing happen with a tooth. Did a root canal, thought they got it. Turned out that the tooth had a short root and cracked after it was filled. Now that I think about it, this happened to my dad more recently too.

Anyway, it sucks that one of the most expensive things I own is a little piece of my head. That said, walking around for almost a year with no tooth is a humbling experience, even if wasn't noticeable. I found that it was also great for keeping me mindful of my own suffering in relation to that of others.

Hey, welcome!

I put it in my calendar and everything!