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asianicing  ·  3428 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Have you ever found out that one or both of your parents cheated?

Mom doesn't know I know she cheated, and dad told me everything including how he cheated. He doesn't want me to say a thing because it could unravel decades of a marriage that's been built on regained trust, and I completely understand that. Hubski's a good outlet for this.

asianicing  ·  3428 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Have you ever found out that one or both of your parents cheated?

I also didn't believe they could do it. It's really shattered the whole image I had of them and everything they tried to teach me about marriage and faith.

asianicing  ·  3428 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Have you ever found out that one or both of your parents cheated?

Thank you. I'm definitely trying to detach myself from the situation since they've still raised me lovingly from day 1 despite all the drama. Still my parents at the end of the day. That's the biggest thing I'm telling myself.

asianicing  ·  3428 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Have you ever found out that one or both of your parents cheated?

If your family's reasons for hiding the whole event are similar to my dad's, it'd be to preserve the harmony between your familial unit. It's a lot easier to think Mom and Dad have just been the perfect match since day 1 instead of the rocky beginning they took time into covering up.

asianicing  ·  3428 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Have you ever found out that one or both of your parents cheated?

Thank you so much.

asianicing  ·  3428 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Have you ever found out that one or both of your parents cheated?

Before this whole ordeal I was very black and white about how cheating is wrong and one should just leave if he or she intended to cheat. After hearing the reason my father cheated (he was angry about finding out he at the time was the other man and my mom had a boyfriend in a different country) I realized some people just have to do it. It doesn't make the action any better, but it makes it a lot more understandable and I see where you're coming from.