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Quatrarius  ·  39 minutes ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: November 27, 2024

just spatchcocked the turkey for tomorrow

Quatrarius  ·  214 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: The Man Who Wasn't There

i don't much like the line about him being "neurodivergent and doing naughty things sometimes" when he raped two women -that's not naughty, that's reprehensible. the overwhelming majority of mentally ill people are not rapists. i get the gonzo journalist impulse to write in this goofy way, but i don't like it here.

Quatrarius  ·  223 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: I’ve Been at NPR for 25 Years. Here’s How We Lost America’s Trust.

well, looking at the statistics, there has been a dip in NPR's radio figures at least based on this back down to pre-trump levels -I've seen other stats on total platforms combined, so including podcasts, online video, etc, that pushes it up to 50 to 60 million weekly consumers. if you cut it to donating members ,i don't know how the statistics have changed because i can't find that data, but you could make an argument either way on whether subscribers would be more or less likely to abandon the station

anecdotally, I'm not sure how to respond other than that my experience has not been the same as yours. i think given our past conversations on the subject that you probably have some insight as to why that is.

i will say that my mother used to be an NPR donator but stopped because she felt they weren't left wing enough. i think the political and cultural war in america demands more partisanship than NPR can provide.

Quatrarius  ·  222 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: I’ve Been at NPR for 25 Years. Here’s How We Lost America’s Trust.

yes, of course - why else would I be here? he cites the same statistics (hosted on a different website) that i used.

Quatrarius  ·  223 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: I’ve Been at NPR for 25 Years. Here’s How We Lost America’s Trust.

to put it another way, when i hear people like mr. berliner talk about media trust and activism ruling over facts, the dogwhistles are too shrill to hear the surface message of "npr isn't very good", which i think we can all agree with. i view it as one of the best options available, but honestly that puts it at "fine" for me because most are just dreck

i am too used to this kind of thing being used as a shuttle for bigotry and polemics about people like me, and the response to the article has cemented that perception for me

Quatrarius  ·  244 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: March 27, 2023

while i travelled, my passions for to groom

i came upon a sentimental tune

Quatrarius  ·  272 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: The New "Over the Top" Secret Plan on How Fascists Could Win in 2024

it was not..

the vast majority of the growth in the arab population was due to natural population growth and not migration - and more jews than arabs migrated to the country in total. unless I'm misunderstanding what you mean by net, you have it backwards.

the majority of the arab population was settled even at the time of the mandate censuses. the idea that palestine was an empty land is a colonial myth of convenience.

the other little thing that i wanted to say was (as per the Wallerstein convo) cooking it used to be a Woman Duty and now it's a Nobody Duty. the shift from unpaid to paid labor with women entering the workforce spread the household responsibility of cooking/cleaning/kids/etc, at least nominally, across everybody - and now that people don't train their daughters to do it, nobody gets trained to do it. the grassroots is gone, for lack of a better word, and you only get this scattershot stuff about home ec or scrabbling things together out of necessity until you figure it out, and the two roads are roast beef girl and doordash coiner

it's tricky to talk about because it's not like forcing all of it unpaid onto women was any better either, but you're right. money has hollowed the whole thing out. now there's no script, and we're just improvving for lack of being told what to do by the world

Quatrarius  ·  321 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What We Learned in 2023 About Gen Z’s Mental Health Crisis

but what is better parenting? i don't ask to try to score debate points: i don't know what that looks like, and any insight on what you think it is would guide me to better engage. calling all hubski parents: what do parents have to do? what do you do right now, at whatever age your kid is at? what do you think you should do, or could do better?

    This strikes me as a very absurd juxtaposition. What percentage of parents do you think are even aware of these dangers? because I'm afraid it's very, very low. My parents knew literally zero about the dangers, this generation of parents know...some things but it frustrates me how far we still have to go.

i don't know how to respond other than to say that the lack of comprehension among the elderly and the internet-elderly is cooking them as well, and that they are eating the slop and enjoying it more than young people. if you weren't part of the pre-eternal september vanguard, and you aren't tech-adjacent, and you didn't spend some part of your youth online, your base level of knowledge is "how do i print pdf" and "facebook said there are chemicals in the tapwater." i don't think it's absurd to talk about what-ought-to-be in this context when we can all see that what-actually-is is a mess.

all you need to be a parent is to have kids. think about the average person in their 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, etc - and extrapolate that knowledgeset to the average parent in the same age range. i think it's safe to say that for a really large chunk of people, the internet is incomprehensible beyond the lake that they skim the surface of. from what i see, people make themselves a range that they stick to: email, social media, a little youtube if you're getting spicy. they keep it shallow because they are conscious of their own ignorance, and develop skills to avoid showing it.

the continuing problem is the fact that young people are much, much more equipped to deal with all this than their parents. GenX begat GenZ, but the percentage of IRC-hopping andies and Cory Doctorows of that generation is still not very big. Now that Millennials are giving birth to GenAlpha, we see how ("more") internet-equipped parents are raising internet-accessing children, but those kids are still preteens at most.

There's no survive the internet class. there isn't even a be a parent class. instead we have the onslaught of "phone bad, screen bad" from every source read by the parent age brackets, and either you know nothing about it (aforementioned GenX and older beyond the Elite Percentage who could probably roll and smoke >90% of the world population on this), or you're a Millennial and you have extreme guilt over your own screen use and internet addiction, and project your own experiences on your Ipad kid.

I'm not at all equipped or qualified to solve any of this. I do think that I'm more capable of narrowing down the problem than the average OpEd writer of the world, or the average Haidt. Maybe that's egotistical, but I believe it.

it's quite freewheeling, but i found it quite interesting: another quote:

    The strange, uninspiring ideological cocktail of socialism with Chinese characteristics, from Deng Xiaoping Theory to Jiang’s Three Represents to Hu’s Harmonious Socialist Society all congealed into litany without much of a concrete meaning, with its endless list of numerical targets and PR-speak buzzwords, is not so far removed from Tony Blair’s Third Way, or David Cameron’s Big Society and Northern Powerhouse, or any of the other projects unveiled by the endlessly ambitious British political class since they stopped having ideas.

but like, i see job listings i applied for 2 years ago still open. my sister has been dealing with awful management at HER massage/spa receptionist job. somehow getting fucked by a faceless company of rentseekers serfing me out to the SSA still feels better than getting micromanaged by a small business tyrant

having said that i would love to have a real, nonfake job, where your coworkers and govt liaisons aren't baffled by your company's incompetence in scheduling and communication.

i know we have some michigan business owners on hubski - y'all hiring? I'm good at doing real work at fake jobs and fake work at real jobs so my bases are covered. forget everything i said about the small business thing earlier

update on the Q economic index: I'm making 21 dollars per billable hour now doing VHR work and will be making around 22-23 in the new year, but the company i have been contracting for is collapsing due to being dogshit and losing their ssa contract

also i have to bill my time so they nickel and dime me because i get paid per hearing and for up to 15 minutes in between, so depending on how much gap there is i get screwed out of money

also because the company is shit and the middleman nature of it is a scam, I've probably averaged less than 8 hours a week which is maddening. I've talked to other VHRs and this is just normal. they fuck everybody over on hours.

but no kidding, making 10 dollars more an hour almost makes it bearable. I can't pay rent though but like i barely could before with working four times the hours

there's a new company coming in in the new year and I'm leaning hard on them to try to get more hours so maybe with a little luck I'll be able to break even soon. the judges during the disability hearings dismiss earnings bigger than mine as "not substantial gainful activity"

now that i write it all out i guess I'm not doing that good

within the last 5 years there are tens of newspaper and magazine articles heavily promoting ect, saying it's safe, the barbaric days are over, use it on autistic people, please bro just let me do it.

who is paying these journalists? who is cooking up these articles for them? or alternatively, what's with the sudden upswell in supposedly non-astroturfed support for ect?

Quatrarius  ·  368 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: And the prompt is [3] CERTAINTY

red bathrobe nazi striptease:

the new wave keeps washing in.

a word for weight loss,

for purple links,

the way that ripeness sickens,

for dry spit and red eyes,

the surety that came when i did.

Quatrarius  ·  368 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: And the prompt is [3] CERTAINTY

i bit this one off a deactivated twitter person, who described her similar experience more evocatively. i can't find her poem because the account is gone

Quatrarius  ·  388 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: November 1, 2023

making music is annoying but addictive. i burned 6 hours or so today trying to synthesize a kick drum from scratch in sunvox and ended up with something that kinda-sorta fit the bill, but not in a satisfying way. it's tricky to tell how much is "my skill is poor", "the tools aren't good", or "my methods are wrong" with this kind of thing

nevertheless she persisted

Quatrarius  ·  434 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Shadow on the Sun | On a tour through The Villages

apparently the author got metoo'd and suspended from the labor party about 6 years ago for groping some lady, and ever since then he's made his career about going to places and feeling sad about things

Quatrarius  ·  454 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: These moments totally happened at the GOP primary debate

if he's fully vaccinated and so are his kids, and he also believes vaccines are unsafe and cause autism, etc, doesn't that make him both a hypocrite and an idiot?

using a pejorative to describe somebody? it's just what he continually and publically espouses. it's not a pejorative, it's a descriptor. if you think it makes you marginalized to have what you say be described, then that should tell you something about what you're saying

Quatrarius  ·  480 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: A Racist Smear. A Tarnished Career. And the Suicide of Richard Bilkszto.

this is worse than 9/11

Quatrarius  ·  495 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: A glitch in the SEO matrix

search engines are just unusable at this point and it's atrocious. it feels like everything is AI generated or backfed through google translate or just scraped off of a bigger site. i'm not smart enough to know how to deal with that, but i hope it weans me from the internet a bit more

Quatrarius  ·  495 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: July 19, 2023

she's runnin over pedestrians when she drives

she's runnin over pedestrians when she drives

she's not looking at the crosswalk

and she's speeding on the sidewalk

yes she's runnin over pedestrians when she drives

Quatrarius  ·  528 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: You’re hurting me a lot by hurting her

TL;DR:

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Quatrarius  ·  555 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What to post

the words get worse when the wine hits

white woman wishes she wasn't a wife

we watch her walk off worries

while Walker whips the kids

Quatrarius  ·  555 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What to post

lotion in the basket

neuken in de keuken

i keep my shit elastic

i give your shit a poke-a

Quatrarius  ·  555 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What to post

あの夢の

忘れたものを

思い出したよ

本当にいた

君の幽霊

Quatrarius  ·  555 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What to post

寒い風

部屋の中まで

吹いている

僕を探した

ように来たかな

Quatrarius  ·  555 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What to post

autobiographical, logical, empirical

the scientist is magical

his measurements are miracles

a story that speaks volly-umes

(albeit half-satirical)

his birth was very audible

his mother quite hysterical

the pain was quite unbearable

his baby head was tearing her

his brain too big and spherical

now grown he studies politics

his metrics mainly cranial

a useful one for lobbyists

his biases all genial

Quatrarius  ·  555 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What to post

A crack / a cry for battle,

by kings with crowns / cast downward

to knights kneeling / not even

whispers from / the fat spinsters

who mock the men / will let my

little girls / go untilled by

that sharpness / sheer avarice

those boys! / they toil brother's

ancient venture / vast sageness

of fathers / far forgotten

creatures of it / they creep in

the fields burn / battered female

calves for harvest / held in farms

raptured vengeance / captive veal

let me fallow / allfather

my reeds grow high / how easy

i keep my flowers / fat leaves

fruiting with / wide bruises of

rotten pink / pluck it all off

cap me cleanly / corpse of rat

my throne grows up / through the oats

Quatrarius  ·  555 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What to post

Born under two stars / blue storm

womb eater / man and woman

Lady Ash / Lord of Rainhome

grown sainted / by god-swift bow

sword of paper / metal pen

clouds ripe with / mouths grinning wide

heaven places / heavy hopes

Breastplate lacquered / lips gone chapped

she writes a letter / "Whether

it reach you, lover, / read like

I whisper to / your wide hips

and our hands pick / hot flowers

from silken groves / grip this ode

as if my words / were woman."

"I will return / in raw heat

to suck nectar / your sweet flecks

of sweat, your mouth / my bounty

I gasp here / passion grows high

I can feel your touch / take me

skin burning with / bright yearnings

for pleasures / we could yet play."