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steve  ·  4126 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What Are/Were You Looking For (in a relationship)? Did You Find It?

I know you're just generating conversation, so I hope it won't sound disrespectful if I disagree with the question. You know I love you lil. :)

I don't worry much about what I want(ed) from the other person - rather, I spend my life focusing on what I can give to that person.

Some might say "Oh no steve! that's codependence!"

To them I reply, not if it goes both ways.

Great relationships aren't 50/50. They're 100/100.





lil  ·  4126 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I didn't know you loved me. Unless you are the same steve as thenewgreen - I know he loves me.

re. generating conversation - yeah, you caught me.

Also, disagreeing with the question is absolutely respectful. I think the question "What are you looking for?" is a valid question; however, I think "what are you NOT looking for?" would be a more honest question and I think the answers have been more or less along those lines. We have a better idea of what we don't want than what we want. We don't know what amazingness the universe will bring us. I could never have imagined many of the people I have loved, never even conceived of looking for such a person. I find your answer and the Bob Marley quote above from BLOB_CASTLE to be thought-provoking. thx.

steve  ·  4126 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'm not the same steve... (and it chaps thenewgreen every day that I got the username first) but I still totally love your contributions to hubski!

I thought more about my response - and you're right - your question still has a large value, and I was thinking of it in a different way.

BLOB_CASTLE  ·  4126 days ago  ·  link  ·  

At your service.

lil  ·  4125 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Do you have a source for that quotation?

BLOB_CASTLE  ·  4125 days ago  ·  link  ·  

What counts as a valid source?

lil  ·  4125 days ago  ·  link  ·  

-- any believable citation, a date, an interviewer, a video. I just checked some Bob Marley quote websites -- there are a lot of great, believable quotes. Zero sources.

BLOB_CASTLE  ·  4125 days ago  ·  link  ·  
lil  ·  4124 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Yup. Good find! -One of my favourite guys out there is the Quote Investigator. He's actually looked up a few things for me. So far he has done only one Bob Marley investigation "some people feel the rain, others just get wet" - maybe he's up for another.

BLOB_CASTLE  ·  4124 days ago  ·  link  ·  

The calabash pipe sealed the deal for me. We should get this man on the case.