Now I don't feel as bad about not realizing you were female until...this morning. Honestly, it's not that I thought you were male, I just didn't think about it at all. During some posts I will visually imagine the person behind the computer screen similar to how one would envision characters in novels. But this only happens if the person is telling a story, if they are just talking about something they just sort of a gray blob or their gender doesn't even cross my mind. I wish I had read your brother/bar story before I knew you were female because it would be interesting if I would've seen it. I related to that story a lot - I have a little brother who has always played sports and been popular and has a douchey jock attitude sometimes. I might have thrust myself and my gender onto you because I relate to it so much. I'm not sure.I for one assume all are male unless proven otherwise, and didn't realize insomniasexx was female at first.
My brother, the biggest asshole I know. And until recently I was confused about why I went for asshole guys...until I realized that my brother and my relationship with him probably has something to do with it! If it's one of the models of 'affection' I've had in my life since day 1, it probably makes some sort of sense that I sometimes mistakenly go for that in dating relationships. Don't feel bad at all! I keep my gender somewhat quiet here (blew my cover with my poetry submissions a bit doe) on purpose.