It sounds like you have a really good grasp of your situation. It's been my obersvation that most most people do not understand themselves or their weaknesses very well and these are the people that fail. This is why when people are interviewed for a job the question "tell me a weakness of yours" is often asked. If you know what your weakness is, then you are far more likely to overcome it. For this reason, I'd say you are well positioned to achieve your goals, you just need a plan.

What is it at work that you do to stay on target? Any chance you could emulate that at home? My wife often gets annoyed because I am far more detail oriented at work than I am at home. I work off of a list that I make every day at work and one-by-one I cross tasks off of the list.

I asked my wife to start making me "to-do" lists at home. It works.

I have been a part of a number of team projects and what I've found is that some people will self-sabotage themselves just prior to bringing a project to fruition. Why? I think it's because, to them, the idea of trying and failing is worse than simply having a "dream" and never trying. Screw that!

Put the laundry aside. Make a list and get it done!

Also, welcome to Hubski. If you have any questions about anything feel free to PM me. Otherwise, joelg236 wrote this a while back for new users.

Good luck!