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b_b  ·  4283 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Trust

You can't repair serious damage easily. I think that building trust after it has been breached is a bit like getting out of credit card debt. When digging out of debt, you need to make a budget, and stick to it. Then, sacrifice all of the things you'd rather do with your money in the present, so that you can have a better future. It takes commitment and hard work. Pathologically lying, I would imagine, is like compiling a giant trust deficit, which can only be dug out of one small step at a time. If you want to fix it, you first have to identify the source of the problem (i.e. why do you lie?), then make a serious plan to correct your past wrongs. Deep problems require deep solutions.





skoolweirdo  ·  4282 days ago  ·  link  ·  

The sad part? I know. Deep cuts require deep pain, deep lies require deep solutions. I just have no clue how to even start to mend these wounds.

mk  ·  4282 days ago  ·  link  ·  

One by one, get days behind you that you feel good about.

That's how I dug out of a hole I found myself in. I just kept doing that. For me, the measure was creating something new everyday. Eventually, it became something that I couldn't give up.

skoolweirdo  ·  4282 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Wow, that's really inspiring and helpful. Thank you.