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comment by gordonz88
gordonz88  ·  4290 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What are you afraid of?

I view it a different way actually, in rejection there is closure. If he/she says no, she would've said no no matter what. There's no changing the sequence of events that happened. There's no going back and changing your relationship. Etc. With regret, there's always that gnawing "Would she have said yes?" and the years go by, and that turns into "Damn, I'm sure she would've said yes" etc. etc. and it turns you into a pitiful wreck.

I.. I like closure.