I was exaggerating there a bit. What I've meant was you had something not letting you into the absolute comfort zone, that clouds up your mind. But how the hell do you do that, when all you can hear is a talk about nothing completely in templates? People don't give out who they are to strangers, you gotta work your way through a man to find out who they really are. You get different answers to the same questions from the people who know you better or worse. In the current time we just create that wall of armor to defend us from society's judgement. So in reality people aren't really interested in who you really are, but in shell you're surrounded with. They would like the idea of knowing real you, but they'd be much more comfortable with a safe shell you've got.I'd argue that these essential worries are necessary to feel alive. Will it bring sadness and misery? Sure it will. But to be alive mustn't we feel the entire range or feelings and emotions?
That's what I'm speaking about when I call us to talk to strangers. I feel it's important to get people to remember what the fire feels like. I believe talking to strangers, letting your guard down, and being open are essential to getting the population as a whole to dream again. While it'd only be one person at a time, over time, we'd begin to dream once more.
You've got to rock the boat! Take the time to know, really know, a total stranger. Get dig under their high walls if you must. But see what stirs them, gets them riled up. Even if you don't agree with it, at least a grand discussion was had.
lol great tune. But it takes too much time and way too much effort. I dislike the shell immediately, because there are really people without it. They're just super rare. I've met a dude like that 3 years ago: completely blew my mind away. No fluff, straight to the point, became a good friend of mine. You know, when people go out there and...let's call it "meet someone" you hope he or she is nice, polite, respectful and all that sort of stuff. They don't want someone who goes "Fuck your point, and here's why". I had a date like that: the girl left feeling all confused and angry with me, because I haven't met her "shell expectations". I immediately get bored with a shell (I like the word "shell" so much in this particular sense :D ). So in the end there's gotta be some changes in society, in the "moral code" that will let people shake off their shackles of I don't know: uncertainty or awkwardness?
The change your speaking of has to occur with what you mentioned at the beginning of that comment.
I know exactly what you mean by meeting those who you can immediately tell would be great friends. That's actually how I met my girlfriend. The aurora she gave off was so encapsulating, I had to get to know her. We spent three years as best friends and the most recent three and a half in a relationship. Just put forth a little effort and talk to those whom you'd think would be awesome to talk to as opposed to the shelled person. Then, work your way up to breaking some shells.But it takes too much time and way too much effort.
If everyone had that mentality, no one would think the thoughts leading them to dream.
When you order a drink, take a first sip and immediately want to spit it out: do you sit there and keeping drinking it, hoping that in the end you will actually like it? Don't you think that a person who has imposed himself in a shell is already corrupted by it and the chance is higher that you won't like him as himself when you finally get to him?
I dream all sort of things all the time, thanks to a long imposure of books, movies, history and video games. And I have friends to talk those things over with. But it's harder to find a real person or to break someone's shell to see what's actually inside of him. My point is: I don't want to waste time digging into someone, who's dreams right now are about a flashy car to impress his friends. I might not even like what's in the end. And now I have to go and spend the same time on someone else? I'd rather go look for someone who's already real, who already has a higher chance of me liking his/her personality. Even if I won't I'm most certainly going to have a very interesting conversation.
As a matter of fact, I do. I'll have the drink a few more times in order to finalize an opinion that I know I can stand behind. For example, every time I even have a sip of Jim Beam, I want to vomit. I've tried it multiple times, and have concluded I really don't Jim Beam. But deep down in that person who is getting that flashy car is someone who is very insecure and in need of someone to care about them.
That is actually what I like most about conversing with strangers. I really enjoy breaking through someones armor and getting to know the person 'underneath'. Just grabbing a beer with a stranger at a bar really builds up a bond, and opens people up like nothing else. Sadly this trait has led me only to relationships of a couple days, since I get bored with them quite fast ...