and to be honest it really sucks to be the community trans explainer -it's not like i have to do it, but i feel like i should, and it's a vibe killer. i hope that someday people like me won't be treated like political footballs or conversational curiosities
If it helps, it's a really tiny community? Speaking as a white dude just a few months younger than Hilary Swank? "Explainer" is probably the single most valuable thing you can do for everyone else. What I can share from the entitled queerbashing conservative nothingchanges community of white males is a general dread of being wrong and being pilloried for stuff that simply wasn't an issue our entire lives. How many tens or hundreds of millions of people out there have "Klinger from M.A.S.H." as their trans paradigm? And I get that you just want to live your (harder) life but on top of that "change is bad" layer that you'll never penetrate there's a whole 'nuther "what I do this time" layer of behavior that has no fucking idea how to navigate change. If you can clear that pathway even a little bit you increase acceptance for everyone. I recognize and appreciate your bravery. I recognize and appreciate your discomfort. I simply want to say it isn't in vain.
it's only because it's a small community that i feel some kind of pressure to be honest - tng addressed the hubski trans community, but if you do the math that basically means just me and spoons the wind is strong but I'll keep pissing into it I'm kinda just bitching