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am_Unition  ·  1698 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: It's the International Trans Day of Visibility. I'm Trans. Ask Me Questions?

Cis-whitemale-hetero as hell, here. Wanted to comment how, on top of everything else, I have the privilege of not really having to figure out anything this complex about myself. Would you say that addressing gender dysmorphia costs a lot of time and effort? Like you say, individual results may vary widely, but I imagine it to generally be the case. I sympathize with people wrestling with that sort of thing, because it seems inherently difficult, and then while you're doin' this soul-searching, society heaps a buncha bullshit on top of you.

Props. :)





ilex  ·  1698 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Yeah for sure it does. It took up a lot of my spare time for a couple years between reading and thinking about things and processing feelings and whatnot. Talking about it with people who aren't supportive is a huge time sink too; I was really tempted for a long time by the idea of figuring out some rationalization for why I was trans so I could finally be Real and Valid and Correct but, honestly, if someone wants to discount your personal experience about yourself then there's really no convincing them otherwise.

A lot of it costs money too! Legal fees, doctors, figuring out how to dress professionally on the cheap...

It did at least get a bit easier once a lot of the one-time things got taken care of and the rest started to feel more mundane than new and intimidating!