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lil  ·  1751 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Hubski: I hate to toot my own horn, but . . .

Yes - you picked up on some NVC -- When this happens, I feel this, because I need this. -- My student should have owned his feelings more directly and said, "I feel" instead of "it makes me feel," which is a little blamey - but the message was clear enough. Our own thoughts and hopes and expectations and assumptions make us feel things -- These needs and feelings are sparked by the actions and behaviours of other, but not caused by others.





Cumol  ·  1750 days ago  ·  link  ·  

But what do I do when I don't know what I am feeling?

user-inactivated  ·  1748 days ago  ·  link  ·  
lil  ·  1748 days ago  ·  link  ·  

perfect kantos: the inventory of feelings. I give that to my students to help them develop a vocabulary of feelings beyond the Seseme Street ones (mad, bad, sad, glad).

user-inactivated  ·  1747 days ago  ·  link  ·  

It's wonderful for dialogues as well. :)

lil  ·  1750 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Can you at least tell when you feel generally satisfied or generally dissatisfied?