I ran into the asshole that crashed my birthday party again this weekend. It happened to be the craziest underground illegal private party i've ever been to. Smack down in old town, open bar, 2 amazing Djs in a tiny space and it was still pumping at 6am when I left for home. I had the greatest pleasure in shaming him for kicking a young girl out of an Uber at 2am because she would not sleep with him. He gave some weak ass excuse about feeling misled by her. I gave him shit for it and he kept apologizing to me the rest of the night. I think maybe he expected to never run into our crew again. Hopefully it taught him a lesson and he'll be less of a douche? I didn't know confronting someone could be so satisfying, and now i'm glad to put this whole ordeal behind me :)
Society runs on good behavior. Grifters and douches know this - they cut in line because they know you're used to living in a world that runs on good behavior and when confronted with bad behavior, you assume "someone will say something." And then nobody does, and then about twelve people around the incident kick themselves for two days about what they should have said because they know they got stepped on and they promise it won't happen the next time and because society runs on good behavior, the next time is years distant and that instinct is dead and the next time it happens they commence shower recrimination anew. What most people don't realize is that all it takes is a spark - one person saying "excuse me what do you think you're doing?" for everyone to find their bravery. Nobody wants to be the first but everyone is ready to be the second; that's the secret of humanity right there. If you're willing to go out on a limb and not be taken advantage of, the world will rally behind you. Fight for what's right. Always. Stand up for the people being stepped on. Always. Nearly everyone wants to do the right thing but nearly no one wants to do the right thing first. Mutherfucker needs to apologize to the girl. He won't though. And what you probably taught him is to be more careful with his douchebaggery. Baby steps.I didn't know confronting someone could be so satisfying, and now i'm glad to put this whole ordeal behind me :)
Nobody wants to be the first but everyone is ready to be the second; that's the secret of humanity right there. If you're willing to go out on a limb and not be taken advantage of, the world will rally behind you.
This is very good advice.
Guy Laliberte built this really cool immersive pyramid experience in our city, that also has " parties" in the evenings. I went to the "taboo" themed one a couple weeks back to see what it is. https://py1.co/en/py1-nights/taboo/ Turned out to be about 90% club crowd, and I got called a homophobic (?) bitch by some drunk dude, because I called him disrespectful when he tried to take a selfie with a person in a Gimp suit that clearly didn't want to be photographed. That's why I rarely go to regular parties anymore... But at least getting under the skin of some assholes provides some entertainmentMutherfucker needs to apologize to the girl.
I have told him that, but she's away for vacation until september and I don't think I want to give him a way to reach her online. Fight for what's right. Always. Stand up for the people being stepped on. Always.
I'm pretty good at not being stepped on usually, but the next step is being a better defender of the people around me too. Which also involves getting my friends to come flag me when they feel uncomfortable about someone - cause i'm not a mind reader and can't notice everything.
Good job calling him out and making him answerable for his behavior. The only reason these guys do it, is because they think they won't suffer any consequences. Getting berated by a fierce and beautiful woman gets right to core of his toxic masculinity, and shows him for the childish twerp he is. Good work! Now shake it off, and go on being awesome.