Sometimes you gotta call bullshit. It's even part of AA culture. "Not cosigning your bullshit" is one of their little witticisms. So is a version of "mind your own business." AA is not a good example because its inherently hypocritical

My point is you can't nail down an answer here because the question is too vague. Simply, someone could look up four dictionary definitions and be done but that's not the answer being begged. Philosophy tends towards questions with no answers if we're going to take seriously the introductory clause of the topic sentence.

Am I supposed to remain civil while the government arrests babies? Hell no. I'm going to take those people to task. And offend some baby arrest apologists in the process. But I'm firm in the conviction that 18 month olds shouldn't be incarcerated. So fuck those people who don't like my tone.

I like philosophical questions to a degree but it's at its core just mental exercise. Or mental masturbation if you want to be cynical. So in the end these discussions just end up being persuasiveness contests when held in forums instead of in the confines of two academics who disagree with each other and snipe back and forth in obscure publications. I'm also probably too generally abrasive to argue a lot of point convincingly. And I'm fine with that.