- It does not necessarily follow from all this that women deep down hate being able to vote and long to be beaten. What it means, I think, is that one fantasy many women share is the reconciliation of their actual orgasms with the impossible rules of the society they grew up in. Women have always tried hard to erotically assent to the lies they're told about how you get good sex, whether through marriage, or submission, or even our current theories about consent. None of it quite works: Bad sex was and remains a problem in America; behind every man's joke about a "frigid wife" is a woman who's done pretending otherwise. That the woman's side of what bad sex means is only now being discussed is both a sign of progress and an index of how exhausted women are from trying to sustain social fictions old and new about how women are supposed to get off. They're tired because social change is onerous. Because women have necessarily shouldered the bulk of that social adjustment. And because it still isn't done.
Favorite new word: Onanistic. And not just because it makes the business name Cummins Onan ("powering a world that's ALWAYS ON!") even more hilarious.
The author seems to not little about BDSM. I dont know much... but I know it's a kink of very powerful woman. They actually control the interaction and the amount of humiliation/pain they desire. The "master" is just a tool. And the author ignore the fact, that submissive male are common.. and usually are very powerful people, also very directive on the pain/humiliation they want. For once I seems to know something Klein ignore! Onan was a biblical character, very alone.. and Candaulism come from the King Candaules who liked to have his wife taken before his eyes
The fact that 50 shades, apparently a bad depiction of BDSM, got so much success, might actually mean something. But I wont trust the author with analyzing it.
I mean sure sometimes but no that’s not the whole story. Take into consideration how many women bought this book and understand that many borrowed it from a library or didn’t bother because they already figured out where to find better smut on the internet for free... you think that many very powerful women exist ? It’s all significantly more complicated than that and women likely have varying reasons for taking pleasure in anything related to BDSM considering it’s a pretty wide genre and everybody has different limits. I dont know much... but I know it's a kink of very powerful woman.
My experiences on the fringe of the BDSM community does not support your suppositions, nor does what little data there is.I dont know much... but I know it's a kink of very powerful woman.
And the author ignore the fact, that submissive male are common.. and usually are very powerful people, also very directive on the pain/humiliation they want.
I still think the article fall apart if you acknowledge that submissive male exist. I don't see your data, the abstract say nothing about submission proportion in male and female.. but the : make it feel that female are under-reporting (almost half as much) about the subject than male. At least the article is right about something: people lie about their sexuality.2.2% of men, 1.3% of women said they had been involved in BDSM
The article isn't about men. It's about women. It's one columnist's insight into why women might buy a book that's ostensibly about BDSM. I do think it's interesting that even when presented with data, your inclination is to dismiss the entire article because you've decided it doesn't support a tangential hunch of yours.