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veen  ·  2492 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: January 31, 2018

Still no home. I start my job tomorrow. The owner of the building doesn't consider my buddy's freelance income as sufficient enough, so we now need someone else to guarantee his part of the rent. That means they need to hand over multiple income and employer statements as well as proof of residences. It's solely so the company can proof we're good renters on paper, so it's a lot of work for basically nothing, but we've found a buddy willing to help us out. (Parents were not an option for us.) But it's super stressful and I probably will have to commute 4 hours/day starting next week because I can't even plan temporary housing with this level of uncertainty. Stressssssfulllll.

The good part is that I had my first company meetings this week. I'm stoked to get started. The more colleagues I talk to, the more I realize that it's a unique, ambitious and motivated bunch of people that I will hopefully do great things with. On my first workday (tomorrow) we're driving to Austria to ski, so I could not have wished for a better start! (I'm getting lessons. Wish me luck.)





FirebrandRoaring  ·  2492 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    But it's super stressful and I probably will have to commute 4 hours/day starting next week because I can't even plan temporary housing with this level of uncertainty. Stressssssfulllll.

We're kinda-kinda in the same boat right now. No advice from me, just a show of empathy and of the wish to stay well despite bad circumstance.

Best of luck. Once you're on the other side, it'll get easier.

user-inactivated  ·  2492 days ago  ·  link  ·  

How's about both of you move to America, get an apartment together here, and turn it into a reality show? Cameras will follow you around all day as you try to navigate your way through all aspects of American life. You can call it something topical, controversial, and possibly misleading, like "Undocumented."

FirebrandRoaring  ·  2492 days ago  ·  link  ·  

As soon as I get the ticket, I'm on it.

EDIT: Ooh, ooh, I got it: "Hacking America". 'cause veen is Dutch and I'm Russian.

veen  ·  2492 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Thanks, it's appreciated. Good luck to you too! I keep telling myself doubt must come to an end, but it's not easy when that end keeps getting pushed back a week or two.

FirebrandRoaring  ·  2492 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Thank you.

I think doubt never ends.

With fear, the question is not how to not be afraid — it's how to act on my values despite being afraid. It's a matter of getting used to it and overcoming it.

Doubt is fear.

veen  ·  2492 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    It's a matter of getting used to it and overcoming it.

I used to be the kid who wanted to know exactly how the day was planned so I wouldn't be caught off-guard by any kind of surprise. I'd call going from that to "I may or may not have a home, we'll see", progress.

FirebrandRoaring  ·  2492 days ago  ·  link  ·  

And I'm not to diminish it in any way.