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FirebrandRoaring  ·  2497 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Why American men are getting less marriageable

I'd like to make a statement about your goals in life and whether being able to afford a richer life matters to one more than being with a person they can be deeply, intimately in love with, but I'm not nearly qualified to try.

Romantics and pragmatists, is what I'm going to say.





AnSionnachRua  ·  2496 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Aye but also depends on whether you're actively searching for someone or not, in which case you're probably more likely to have "demands" than if you happen to develop mutual feelings with someone who is already part of your life somehow.

So naturally it depends on the person, and for many the stage they're at in their life (people often talk about women who really want kids - it's time sensitive, so you'd better find someone and get hitched).

OftenBen  ·  2496 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    if you happen to develop mutual feelings with someone who is already part of your life somehow.

Europeans talk about this a lot, it seems to be something that is comparatively rare in American culture, or if it's present here, it's not discussed in the same terms.

AnSionnachRua  ·  2496 days ago  ·  link  ·  

That's a good point. The whole idea of "dating" is becoming more common here but it's very much seen as an American invention.

FirebrandRoaring  ·  2496 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Sure, sure. The classification I gave is but one among many dimensions human beings possess in the social structure.