Quote from not-Lil is from Mark Manson's "Life is a Video Game -- Here Are the Cheat Codes" which I keep close at hand (first found via hubski of course):

Players may respond to problems with either Solutions or Distractions. All players must meet problems with a reaction (even choosing not to react to a problem, is itself, a reaction).

All reactions can be divided up in two ways: Solutions and Distractions.

Solutions are actions and pursuits that resolve a problem preventing it from continuing or happening again in the future. Distractions are actions or pursuits designed to either make the Player unaware of the problem’s existence or to dull the pain the problem may be causing.

If a Player feels they understand a problem and are capable of handling it, they will pursue a Solution. If players are just sick of Life’s shit, then they will likely pursue Distractions to help them pretend the problem isn’t actually there.

This led to a lengthy meditation of my own about distractions v. solutions. I can include some of it here if anyone is interested -- but the more I thought about distractions v. solutions, the more the two start to merge. The ultimate problem requiring a distraction or solution is "What am I doing with my life?" This can be solved with distractions disguised as solutions. This can also be solved with solutions disguised as distractions. I apply this theory to my marriages, so you can see the rabbit hole I fell into.