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comment by oyster
oyster  ·  3012 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What do I do if I don't have a vision for my life's work?

For me it helps me notice those thought patterns in day to day life and understand them so I can understand they are unhealthy and I should go the opposite route. For example I have an irrational fear of being ridiculed or belittled so whenever I feel myself pulling away from a social situation I can remind myself that I'm not doing that for any logical reason so I can change the behaviour.

I've got another friend who gets anxious in social settings, understanding the problem helps him understand the anxiety comes from his past not his present so he should do the opposite of what his anxiety tells him in order to be happy.