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comment by ButterflyEffect
ButterflyEffect  ·  3032 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Advice on a major post-college decision

kleinbl00 knows my situation which has resulted in the being in the land of 1000 acquaintances and 3 friends. And not in Seattle.

weird-in-the-woods, do what gives you the best possibility of being happy.





snoodog  ·  3032 days ago  ·  link  ·  
ButterflyEffect  ·  3032 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'm not really a fan of that measurement method for multiple reasons.

What defines what an "important matter"?

Just because a person isn't somebody you would discuss an "important matter" with doesn't mean they're not a friend.

weird-in-the-woods  ·  3032 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Yeah, I guess it also has to do with your definition of friend. If you would only consider someone your friend if you would discuss something important with them, I would say you have pretty damn rigid criteria for friendship.

However, this article did make me realize that the number of friends I have who I would feel comfortable talking about deeply personal stuff with is diminishing kinda quickly. And they're beginning to become more and more scattered around the world.